Tell me more about your erotic life. I think it's important. As a sex-positive therapist, I am open to conventional partnerships as well as alternative lifestyles, identities, and gender expressions. It's all just normal expressions of love
- Are you craving more exploration, surprise, mystery, novelty, excitement, desire and passion?
- Does your partner feel like a child or parent, thus decreasing desire?
- Do you struggle with sharing sexual concerns with your partner, especially your sexual desires and needs?
- Are you struggling alone with personal sexual issues?
- Do you worry about the frequency or lack of sexual frequency in your relationship?
- Do you feel turned-off when your partner wants sex?
- Does your partner struggle with sexual dysfunction?
- Do you feel sexually unfulfilled?
- Are you struggling to heal from a boundary violation, sexual or emotional infidelity?
- Is your relationship longterm, and you're feeling more like roommates than lovers?
- Are you a new parent and having trouble with life/balance or feeling romantic and sexual again?
- Are you having hormonal or drug-related side effects or chronic pain and medical concerns?
For many reasons, sexuality changes throughout our lifetime--this is normal. It's important however to be able to openly discuss and communicate your needs and wants with your sexual partner or spouse--what's working and what's missing. Without this openness, your relationship will certainly suffer. It is possible to repair damages done to your relationship and restore intimacy and affection as well as create an exciting and robust sex life. It is also possible to heal from infidelity and any personal traumas that are impacting your sexuality. Perhaps you don't have any identifiable problems, but would simply like to enhance your sense of sexual adventure, novelty and erotic connection. I work with couples of all sexual orientations, genders, and race. My work is informed by esteemed couples therapists and psychotherapists such as John and Julie Gottman, Sue Johnson and Esther Perel.
As a couples, relationship and marriage therapist, I spend a fair amount of time helping couples develop or reconnect to intimacy, address sexual concerns and explore the need for more eroticism, excitement and passion. In my practice, sex therapy is exclusively "talk therapy" and under no circumstances does sex therapy involve sexual touch or any inappropriate touch between therapist and client or between clients. During sex therapy sessions, we address psychological concerns, physical problems that contribute to lack of desire and arousal, and when ready, we explore creativity, fantasies and needs.
How does one become a sex therapist? These professionals are licensed professionals such as psychologists, clinical social workers, marriage and family therapists and professional counselors. Sex therapists have received post-graduate, specialized training beyond what therapists receive during graduate training.
How can sex therapy help you? From relational issues to individual or shared concerns, a sex therapist can help you discover your erotic life, explore your sexual identity and work through personal issues, inhibitions or past traumas that may be interfering with your erotic life.