Posts tagged anxiety help
The Stressed-Out, Very Busy NYC Professional :: Is Anxiety And Stress Hijacking Your Life?

Something just doesn’t feel right and while you may think you’re managing all the aspects of your hectic life pretty well, that “off” feeling may be anxiety that's pulling you out of your game. You could benefit from finding a therapist to help you sort things out but you’re too busy to make it to the gym or show up for family and friends as it is. You are a high-achieving, busy New Yorker, you are also struggling to balance personal and professional demands. You can’t do everything, and at times, it feels like you may be sinking instead of flourishing. Many high-functioning New Yorkers also battle chronic, stress-induced anxiety and tension that can lead to physical symptoms and depression.

You may overeat and abuse substances so now that we’ve identified those behaviors, this is a good time to consider whether anxiety and stress are driving some of these bad habits and patterns. Do you feel unwell because of anxiety and is it time to seek treatment for your stress and anxiety? How would your life improve if you found effective help for your symptoms of stress and anxiety?

I always recommend seeking professional support when anxiety is hijacking your life. Licensed psychotherapists have specialized training to help you better manage anxiety and cope better in the many aspects of your life so that you can create a healthier work/life balance. If you find that you are feeling overwhelmed, numb, less resilient, or that you eat and drink your feelings, here is some practical help until you find a therapist to work with one on one.

  1. Pause, Identify + Notice — This is hard for busy professionals to slow down, hit the pause button and observe their thoughts, feelings and emotions or “tune-in” to what’s happening in their body. Who wants to do that especially when you work so hard to avoid unpleasant feelings. The body speaks loud and clear when we

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Kimberly Seelbrede, LCSW is a New York licensed Psychotherapist and Consultant with extensive training and experience. She provides pscyhological consultation, therapy and coaching to a range of clients including high-profile clients, working in-person, online and worldwide. As an EMDR therapist, couples therapist + women's emotional health expert, her specialties include: anxiety, depression, trauma resolution, addictions, relationship, intimacy and sexual concerns, health + autoimmune issues, loss + grief, creative, VIP + high-profile clients. She enjoys writing, photography, yoga, travel and really good key lime pie. For more, subscribe to her newsletter or connect with her on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Psychology Today, EMDRIA and her personal website www.kimseelbrede.com or blog.

Five Minutes Closer To Relaxation, Creativity + Enhanced Intuition

Some days are better than others, this we know! If you are able, just for a few minutes, drop the "I should be doing..." and try these simple mindfulness tips to ease your way on those less-than-ideal days...

Remember:  Attention and gratitude...

On the difficult days notice how capable and sturdy your body is. You've made it through these days before. You would be helped to remember that you can do it again. You are resilient and still here. Perhaps you haven't slept, your body feels weak and yet it continues to serve you. Show gratitude and respect for the parts of your self, both physical and emotional, that feel overwhelmed or weakened. Despite your struggle, you may notice how your mind and body works to maintain balance. You've survived and even thrived on the tough days before. Your mind and body is competent and able -- it's designed to push through strain and it even compensates in some interesting ways. Breathe and rest as you can throughout the day needed moments of restoration. 

Remember: Ground yourself...

Feel your feet planted firmly on the ground. Notice the gentle support of the chair beneath you as you place your hands on your thighs and just breathe. Continue to notice any sensations as your feet connect to the earth. As you go about your day, however busy it may be, you can still practice this simple mindfulness exercise. Direct your focus to the sensation of your heels as they touch the ground, notice the space between the ground and the arch of your foot and then your toes as they make contact with the ground. Stillness is not the best solution for some, especially those with high anxiety or individuals who struggle to tolerate sensations in the body. Meditation and yoga experts often fail some clients by

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Kimberly Seelbrede, LCSW is a New York licensed Psychotherapist and Consultant with extensive training and experience. She provides pscyhological consultation, therapy and coaching to a range of clients including high-profile clients, working in-person, online and worldwide. As an EMDR therapist, couples therapist + women's emotional health expert, her specialties include: anxiety, depression, trauma resolution, addictions, relationship, intimacy and sexual concerns, health + autoimmune issues, loss + grief, creative, VIP + high-profile clients. She enjoys writing, photography, yoga, travel and really good key lime pie. For more, subscribe to her newsletter or connect with her on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Psychology Today, EMDRIA and her personal website www.kimseelbrede.com or blog.

#shrinkthinks - Fear

What's the best way to manage anxiety? Find solutions and think your way out of fear.

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Kimberly Seelbrede, LCSW is a New York licensed Psychotherapist and Consultant with extensive training and experience. She provides pscyhological consultation, therapy and coaching to a range of clients including high-profile clients, working in-person, online and worldwide. As an EMDR therapist, couples therapist + women's emotional health expert, her specialties include: anxiety, depression, trauma resolution, addictions, relationship, intimacy and sexual concerns, health + autoimmune issues, loss + grief, creative, VIP + high-profile clients. She enjoys writing, photography, yoga, travel and really good key lime pie. For more, subscribe to her newsletter or connect with her on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Psychology Today, EMDRIA and her personal website www.kimseelbrede.com or blog.

#shrinkthinks - DBT Shift - You Are Not Your Feelings!

Are you someone who over identifies with your emotions or physical sensations? It's easy, even habitual, to get caught in the tide of strong feelings and emotions. Sometimes they come upon you without warning -- fast and fierce -- leaving you feeling distressed and emotionally dysregulated. You may even feel like you're not in the here and now, but back in the there and then. This feels like something else, some other experience in the past. Emotions can feel strong, and overwhelm, but remember, you are NOT your emotions. To increase your self-esteem and sense of agency, notice when powerful feelings arise within you. Identify what may have triggered this in you. You might typically say "I CAN'T do this. I'm completely overwhelmed." Try a reframe by saying "I FEEL completely overwhelmed." How does this simple shift help? By understanding that "overwhelm" is a feeling, and YOU ARE NOT YOUR FEELINGS. "Feelings" are temporary states, transitory. Feelings pass. Ride it out, or in DBT speak, surf the wave. The psychological impact of this strategic shift can be incredibly helpful. 

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Kimberly Seelbrede, LCSW is a New York licensed Psychotherapist and Consultant with extensive training and experience. She provides pscyhological consultation, therapy and coaching to a range of clients including high-profile clients, working in-person, online and worldwide. As an EMDR therapist, couples therapist + women's emotional health expert, her specialties include: anxiety, depression, trauma resolution, addictions, relationship, intimacy and sexual concerns, health + autoimmune issues, loss + grief, creative, VIP + high-profile clients. She enjoys writing, photography, yoga, travel and really good key lime pie. For more, subscribe to her newsletter or connect with her on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Psychology Today, EMDRIA and her personal website www.kimseelbrede.com or blog.

#shrinkthinks - Banish Those Negative Thoughts And Emotions

Interrupt those negative, life-draining thoughts that serve to maintain faulty brain wiring AND keep you looping in the familiar. The next time a negative thought, or the memory of pain or anger comes to mind, simply say to yourself "stop," "go away," or “I release you” and visualize yourself free and without this negative distraction. Learning to interrupt habitual, repetitive thoughts or distortions, called "thought stopping" or "thought interrupting" in CBT, can be a challenge, and definitely takes practice. So what do you do with the empty space once you decide to banish unhelpful thoughts? It's important to replace the negative cognitions with a more realistic thought or experience that is reassuring, beneficial and more aligned with the changes you'd like to make for yourself.

Okay, so sometimes thought stopping doesn't work. Why? For some, the CBT strategy of "thought interrupting" backfires, to such an extent that all they can think about is the thing, thought or feeling that they're trying to stop. If this describes you, then end the struggle because, for now, acceptance may be the most helpful solution.

What does acceptance look like? One example is: "I tend to worry about things a lot because I 

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Kimberly Seelbrede, LCSW is a New York licensed Psychotherapist and Consultant with extensive training and experience. She provides pscyhological consultation, therapy and coaching to a range of clients including high-profile clients, working in-person, online and worldwide. As an EMDR therapist, couples therapist + women's emotional health expert, her specialties include: anxiety, depression, trauma resolution, addictions, relationship, intimacy and sexual concerns, health + autoimmune issues, loss + grief, creative, VIP + high-profile clients. She enjoys writing, photography, yoga, travel and really good key lime pie. For more, subscribe to her newsletter or connect with her on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Psychology Today, EMDRIA and her personal website www.kimseelbrede.com or blog.

#shrinkthinks - Worry, Anxiety And The Power Of Magical Thinking

Why do you worry so much? Because you believe that your worry, which leads to more anxiety and distress, keeps you safe. If you worry enough, and keep worrying, then maybe, you can stop it from happening. You have an odd relationship with your worry and chronic anxiety. It may keep you up at night, but in your bones, you also believe that it helps you avoid bad things. So in a way, your worry works for you. You believe that it prevents problems or accidents, it prepares you for the worst and you also believe that you may find some solutions in your chronic worry. 

Wrong, it's faulty thinking at work here. Worrying doesn't really help and worrying doesn't

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Kimberly Seelbrede, LCSW is a New York licensed Psychotherapist and Consultant with extensive training and experience. She provides pscyhological consultation, therapy and coaching to a range of clients including high-profile clients, working in-person, online and worldwide. As an EMDR therapist, couples therapist + women's emotional health expert, her specialties include: anxiety, depression, trauma resolution, addictions, relationship, intimacy and sexual concerns, health + autoimmune issues, loss + grief, creative, VIP + high-profile clients. She enjoys writing, photography, yoga, travel and really good key lime pie. For more, subscribe to her newsletter or connect with her on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Psychology Today, EMDRIA and her personal website www.kimseelbrede.com or blog.