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Managing Your Fears: Rejection, Failure And Success

Does anxiety, excessive worry, self-doubt and fear keep you trapped? The subject of fear comes up often in psychotherapy sessions and manifests in a range of behaviors from complete paralysis to counter-phobic reactions. Fear and a certain amount of anxiety can be your friend when the fear of a particular outcome becomes a motivating factor. For example, imagining the fear of failure is the spark that helps some people perform to their potential. 

This also comes at a cost when we use guilt, shame and fear as a way to launch ourselves towards a goal. Don't be quick to use fear as a motivating factor. Fear is heavy, dense energy. It's best to stay focused on the positive outcome and focus on what you actually want for yourself and your life. That said, don't sweep it under the rug. It's likely to come out in some other way messy way. Learning to identify your fears can be incredibly liberating. The act of naming something takes away its power. I'm afraid of this or that helps remove 

Kimberly Seelbrede, LCSW is a New York licensed Psychotherapist and Consultant with extensive training and experience. She provides pscyhological consultation, therapy and coaching to a range of clients including high-profile clients, working in-person, online and worldwide. As an EMDR therapist, couples therapist + women's emotional health expert, her specialties include: anxiety, depression, trauma resolution, addictions, relationship, intimacy and sexual concerns, health + autoimmune issues, loss + grief, creative, VIP + high-profile clients. She enjoys writing, photography, yoga, travel and really good key lime pie. For more, subscribe to her newsletter or connect with her on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Psychology Today, EMDRIA and her personal website or blog.