Do you feel trapped by your anxiety and chronic worry. Most of us do from time to time. The subject of fear comes up often in psychotherapy sessions and manifests in a range of behaviors, from complete paralysis to counter-phobic reactions. Fear and a certain amount of anxiety can be your friend especially when the fear of a particular outcome becomes a motivating factor. For example, the thought of failing is enough to help many work to their potential.
This also comes at a cost when we use guilt, shame and fear as a way to launch ourselves towards a goal. Don't be quick to use fear as a motivating factor. Fear is heavy, dense energy. It's best to stay focused on the positive outcome, specifically, what you actually want for yourself and your life. That said, don't sweep it under the rug. It's likely to come out in some other less-than-tidy way. Learning to identify your fears can be incredibly liberating. The act of naming something takes away its power. Then visualize and hold in your awareness different positive outcomes. Mental rehearsing—what you would like to have happen, and how you would like to feel?
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Kimberly Seelbrede, LCSW is a New York City Psychotherapist + Consultant who splits her time between Manhattan and Santa Fe, providing online therapy to individuals and couples. With extensive training and experience, she provides psychological consultation, psychotherapy, EMDR therapy and executive coaching to a range of clients including VIP's + high-profile clients. As a women's emotional health + relationship expert, her specialties include: anxiety, depression, trauma resolution, addictions, relationship, intimacy and sexual concerns, health + autoimmune issues, loss + grief and women's mentoring. She enjoys writing, photography, yoga, meditation, travel and really good key lime pie. She lives with her husband, psychologist, scholar and mindfulness expert John Chambers Christopher. For more, subscribe to her newsletter or connect with her on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Psychology Today, EMDRIA and her personal websites KimSeelbrede.com, Santa Fe Integrative Psychotherapy or Well+Being Blog.