When dealing with a loved one who is depressed, we often, quite naturally, default to strategies that are an attempt to help them feel better about themselves or their situation. Well-meaning attempts to cheer someone up such as "positive reframing" or "positive evaluation statements" aren't the most helpful solution for many people struggling with depression.
Instead, some benefit more from an empathic stance which involves simply listening to and sympathizing with the way they are feeling, not listing all the things they should feel grateful for and why they should cheer up.
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