When dealing with a loved one who is depressed, we often, quite naturally, default to strategies that are an attempt to help them feel better about themselves or their situation. Well-meaning attempts to cheer someone up such as "positive reframing" or "positive evaluation statements" aren't the most helpful solution for many people struggling with depression.
Instead, some benefit more from an empathic stance which involves simply listening to and sympathizing with the way they are feeling, not listing all the things they should feel grateful for and why they should cheer up.
Kimberly Seelbrede, LCSW is a New York City Psychotherapist + Consultant who splits her time between Manhattan and Santa Fe, providing online therapy to individuals and couples. With extensive training and experience, she provides psychological consultation, psychotherapy, EMDR therapy and executive coaching to a range of clients including VIP's + high-profile clients. As a women's emotional health + relationship expert, her specialties include: anxiety, depression, trauma resolution, addictions, relationship, intimacy and sexual concerns, health + autoimmune issues, loss + grief and women's mentoring. She enjoys writing, photography, yoga, meditation, travel and really good key lime pie. She lives with her husband, psychologist, scholar and mindfulness expert John Chambers Christopher. For more, subscribe to her newsletter or connect with her on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Psychology Today, EMDRIA and her personal websites KimSeelbrede.com, Santa Fe Integrative Psychotherapy or Well+Being Blog.