Do you push people away, and if so, do you know what it is that you do, and why? Chances are, you might not be aware that you do this. Generally done out of fear, it's easier to tolerate ending it, before you are rejected, or hurt someone else before they hurt you. Often, this behavior is unconscious, or you may have some awareness that you do this. When you push others away you guarantee that you will be alone. You also miss out on important and possibly rich opportunities by avoiding potential pain that may or may not ever happen. Your life can improve by becoming aware of this reflexive and habitual pattern.
- Think of ONE thing that you do that pushes people away.
- Think of ONE thing that you do that draws people closer.
Kimberly Seelbrede, LCSW is a New York City Psychotherapist + Consultant who splits her time between Manhattan and Santa Fe, providing online therapy to individuals and couples. With extensive training and experience, she provides psychological consultation, psychotherapy, EMDR therapy and executive coaching to a range of clients including VIP's + high-profile clients. As a women's emotional health + relationship expert, her specialties include: anxiety, depression, trauma resolution, addictions, relationship, intimacy and sexual concerns, health + autoimmune issues, loss + grief and women's mentoring. She enjoys writing, photography, yoga, meditation, travel and really good key lime pie. She lives with her husband, psychologist, scholar and mindfulness expert John Chambers Christopher. For more, subscribe to her newsletter or connect with her on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Psychology Today, EMDRIA and her personal websites KimSeelbrede.com, Santa Fe Integrative Psychotherapy or Well+Being Blog.