Parents and loved ones often feel shame and get blamed and pained in the addiction community for "enabling" behaviors, which are really done out of love, sheer terror and other complicated reasons -- but not helpful for the user. Learning the difference between helpful, supportive behaviors and efforts that reinforce the problem is a crucial educational piece in the process of helping someone recover. The hardest thing to have to do is cut-off funds for substance abusers in an effort to protect them and reel them in. This bold move of using that as leverage is not for sissies. But we know that the use of therapeutic leverage or pressure, can be a very effective tool to get someone into treatment and help them remain compliant with the recommendations of their rehab or treatment team. Using therapeutic leverage may include limiting access to funds, but may also involve using things the addicted person values, such as relationships, activities, employment or other resources. The fundamental concept is about using external motivation for period of time until an individual develops their own internal motivation to turn their lives around. That goal often happens with a sustained period of abstinence and the discovery that life is better without the habit.
In the same way that someone with a medical disease needs resourced, informed andRead More
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