Many couples begin marital therapy or relationship counseling because of sexual desire problems. In fact, most couples experience desire problems, as well as performance difficulties at some point in their relationships. Many who experience sexual problems may actually have performance and anxiety-related difficulties. Other desire-sapping problems include hormonal deficiencies (low testosterone, estrogen), medication side effects (antidepressants, antihypertensives), unresolved anger and contempt and any health issues or physical problems related to aging. These are real problems that zap libido and interfere with intimacy. A visit to your primary care physician or connecting with a relationship expert or couples therapist can help you sift through the biological, psychological and/or other dynamics and problems in the relationship. Before you try the sexy stuff that follows, it's important to figure out if either of you have wounds (past or present) and "un-repaired" issues that have created the couples chasm that you currently feel.Read More
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