Personal Performance Coaching + EMDR Peak Performance
Let's face it, therapy is not the choice for many! Clients seeking coaches are not looking to heal issues rooted in the past, nor are they looking for an expert to help them understand and explore their complicated, emotional lives. While the past may be discussed on occasion, it is only addressed in the context of unearthing the areas of one's history, whether real, misinterpreted, distorted or some combination, that may be blocking the client from moving forward. The focus is always on clearing the path, as needed, to make the client more available for a new reality and way of life which includes movement and taking action. Generally speaking, coaching clients are men and women who are busy, self-directed, goal and performance-oriented, high-achievers who thrive using personal accountability, honesty, feedback, perspective shifting, action steps and focused, challenging questions that will bring them extraordinary results. Partnering with a life coach can be supportive, encouraging and empowering, and can help clients navigate change and restore balance and fulfillment. Whether it’s taking control of one's health, losing weight, repairing a relationship or transitioning to a new chapter in life, coaching can provide the needed inspiration, knowledge, accountability and results one desires.
It can be lonely at the top especially for individuals unwilling or unable to trust and talk to others about their experience. Type A entrepreneurs often don’t talk about things and certainly aren't likely to express emotions. They problem solve and move forward. What happens when they stumble upon patterns and obstacles that come up for them again and again? Executives, officers and entrepreneurs hire coaches to help them remove obstacles and learn to be clear in their lives so they can see things about their behavior that interferes with success and performance. Coaching provides leaders with high-performance communication and leadership skills. They learn to communicate in ways that increase their chances for success, and ensures that others receive the information without getting defensive, as an example. Clients seeking coaches are not looking to heal issues rooted in the past, nor are they looking for an expert to help them understand and explore their complicated, emotional lives. While the past may be discussed on occasion, it is only addressed in the context of unearthing the areas of one's history, whether real, misinterpreted, distorted or some combination, that may be blocking the client from moving forward. The focus is always on clearing the path, as needed, to make the client more available for a new reality and way of life which includes movement and taking action. Generally speaking, coaching clients are men and women who are busy, self-directed, goal and performance-oriented, high-achievers who thrive using personal accountability, honesty, feedback, perspective shifting, action steps and focused, challenging questions that will bring them extraordinary results. Partnering with a life coach can be supportive, encouraging and empowering, and can help clients navigate change and restore balance and fulfillment. Whether it’s taking control of one's health, losing weight, repairing a relationship or transitioning to a new chapter in life, coaching can provide the needed inspiration, knowledge, accountability and results one desires. Learn about coaching here.
EMDR Treatment + Coaching
The Power Team of EMDR + Coaching
As a coach and consultant, I am able to use EMDR to enhance the effectiveness with my coaching clients. Coaches and consultants who use EMDR do so because the process is efficient and effective and the results endure. While "verbal" coaching can be effective for some, “thinking yourself into feeling better and changing behaviors” often fails many hopeful coaching clients. EMDR, when combined with specific coaching techniques has the benefit of stimulating the client’s own brain and nervous system to function at a much higher level. As a results-oriented solution, the power team of EMDR and coaching has proven to be extremely effective in treating even the most difficult problems in a short amount of time. The lasting changes produced by the EMDR process seem to “stick” for clients, and doesn't require the ongoing “conditioning” that traditional “verbal” coaching does.
Coaching motivates, inspires and supports clients by helping them:
- Observe and challenge the stories that perpetuate inertia
- Identify unhelpful patterns and habits that are obstacles to change
- Partialize concerns and problems into manageable pieces
- Move beyond and transform limiting self-concepts
- Face emotions like fear, that keep them feeling paralyzed
- Learn to communicate honestly and directly
- Develop direction and clarity in various aspects of life
- Find innate strengths and build on them
- Uncover passions, become motivated and inspired
- Learn to dream and think "big"
- Explore creativity and practice balance in all areas of life
- Improve personal, professional and spiritual connections
- Design a life that is aligned with one's "true self "and core values
I work with creatives, entrepreneurs and successful professionals who are working on or need dynamic coaching support in these areas:
- Change + Challenges - breakups, separation, divorce and other major transitions
- Passion + Purpose - discovering what you really love
- Healing + Personal Empowerment - learning to communicate your needs and get what you want
- Self Love + Self Care - discovering your strengths and possibilities
- Happiness + Inner Peace- aligning yourself with your true nature
- Goals + Dreams - identifying and taking action
- Weight Loss + Health - undoing bad habits while creating new ones
- Creating Prosperity + Abundance - opening to the possibilities
- Love + Relationships - attracting the right relationships
Peak Performance Coaching + EMDR
I provide Peak Performance Coaching combined with EMDR for clients who struggle with performance blocks and anxiety issues. EMDR therapy is an effective tool for test-taking anxiety as well as performance enhancement for athletes, musicians, executives, politicians, public speakers and performers of all types.
EMDR elegantly replaces terrifying and immobilizing fear with positive emotions, images and self-concepts. This process can change the way clients function on a daily basis, as well as in “performance situations” thus ending years of avoiding the spotlight and other performance-related situations.
How does Coaching combined with EMDR work?
- EMDR desensitizes traumatic responses by targeting the fight/flight response that occurs deep in the brain providing a dramatic reduction in negative responses and programming which contributes to performance blocks and anxiety. Functioning improves in previously blocked areas, which paves the way for new opportunities and success. Negative fears and beliefs are replaced with a positive sense "performing" with ease and comfort.
- If you think of the brain as a computer where experiences are "uploaded" one can imagine how "installing" or "pre-programming" positive outcomes for future situations and performances can greatly enhance creativity, confidence and success.
- When you feel "stuck" EMDR and coaching can help you gain access to stalled or blocked abilities, freeing your creative flow.
- When you don't have time to clear blocks or negative past experiences, using specific performance protocols, we can work intensively on upcoming presentations, performances and more to give you a sense of "I can do this" confidence.
- Between session coaching using techniques such as goal setting, visualization, mental rehearsal and breathing and relaxation techniques.
Coaching with a Therapist
"A coach must be able to recognize when he/she is being asked to 'step into the realm of therapy — or healing and uncovering — rather than the realm of discovering and creating.' It must be clear therapy is not being offered." Pat Williams, PhD Becoming a Professional Life Coach and Therapist as Life Coach, founder the Institute for Life Coach Training As a fully trained and licensed New York State therapist, I pay close attention to resistance and conflicts as well as important emotional and psychological problems such as anxiety disorders and depression among others, that will interfere with the coaching process. Trained mental health professionals are naturals to move proactive clients to a status they so desire. Because they have the training to diagnose and access both clinically and holistically, mental health professionals can access history, environmental, social, economic, spiritual, physical and ethnic influences that shape their clients. A mental health professional in the role of a coach is trained to pay attention to boundary issues because they understand the repercussions of crossing lines and adhere to strict ethical obligations. Furthermore, a mental health professional is less likely to do things that inadvertently interfere with people’s emotional vulnerabilities. Some individuals seem quite together and function well, but can easily unravel in the coaching process. Coaches who are also therapists can and do discern when coaching is not enough and when therapy may be more helpful. Perhaps in the future, coaches will be required to have specialized training in the assessment of depression, suicide, abuse, personality disorders and even grief-related issues in an effort to know when clients should be referred for therapy and not coached.
Relationship coaching is not therapy. Relationship coaching gives clients the tools needed to resolve disagreements, personality clashes and other difficulties that arise in the context of important relationships. Ask yourself these important questions:
- Is there a relationship in your life, colleagues, siblings, lover, past or present, that is causing you stress and tension?
- Do you struggle with honesty in certain relationships?
- Do you find it hard to have difficult conversations, communicate your needs or maintain boundaries?
- Do you get flustered, come "undone" or lose your effectiveness in the face of conflict, negative feedback or confrontation?
- Do you feel easily controlled in certain important relationships?
- Are power struggles or disagreements draining you or your company's energy?
Consider communication coaching and conflict resolution consulting as a way to address problematic relationships.
Some additional helpful press and information on the coaching process…
The ICF is the leading global organization, with over 21,000 members, dedicated to advancing the coaching profession by setting high professional standards, providing independent certification, and building a network of credentialed coaches. To learn more about coaching standards and best practices please visit them online.Getting ‘Unstuck’: Does Your Life Need a Coach? - CNN Living “Part therapist, part consultant, part motivational expert, part professional organizer, part friend, part nag — the personal coach seeks to do for your life what a personal trainer does for your body.” ~ Minneapolis-St. Paul Star-Tribune “Who exactly seeks out a coach? Winners who want even more out of life.” ~ Chicago Tribune “Got a nagging feeling that your life could be more fulfilling? Want to change direction but aren’t sure how to do it? Here’s how to jump start your new life today … Hire a personal coach.” ~Modern Maturity
About Kim Seelbrede, LCSW
So why would a psychoanalytic psychotherapist coach clients on the side? Because it's really fun! Many individuals would prefer to leave the past where it belongs and focus on goal attainment and solutions to move their lives in the direction they desire. Life coaching can shine the light on any obstacles that may be blocking progress and leverage client strengths to build a life more aligned with one's true nature and vision. I give clients the tools and tricks as well as a map of how to reach those often elusive goals. I have a special interest in coaching and working with clients who have health challenges such as autoimmune disorders or other chronic conditions and are motivated to make the necessary lifestyle changes to feel well. Good health and healing is an inside job.
Kim Seelbrede uses creative, effective coaching as well as evidenced-based therapies to help her clients become effective and powerful in their lives which leads to the results they desire, including: personal growth, success and deep, lasting satisfaction in life. Her work involves an intelligent fusion of coaching, psychology, EMDR and mind-body wisdom and the creative integration of these elements to support client growth and transformation. Kimberly's past and current clients include CEOs, top athletes, entertainers, celebrities, writers, creatives, speakers, salespeople, managers, executives, entrepreneurs, doctors, lawyers, parents, adolescents and therapists.
Kim Seelbrede is a former Miss USA and a licensed New York City Psychotherapist, Coach and EMDR Therapist who specializes in an integrative approach to therapy and coaching, working with adults, adolescents and couples. She has a special interest in celebrity mental health and enjoys working with gifted and talented individuals who struggle with self-doubt, perfectionism and performance difficulties . Her intuitive gifts, compassion and eclectic training enables her to work with a range of personal and situational difficulties. Kimberly is trained to collaborate with her clients in developing enhanced self-awareness, personal insight and adaptive coping skills to address many concerns including: relationship and interpersonal difficulties, anxiety, depression, panic disorder, OCD, personality disorders, self-esteem, self-harm, shame, ADD, ADHD, adolescent challenges, family of origin issues, underachievement, identity and sexuality concerns, addictions, compulsions, eating disorders, PTSD/trauma, transitions, health concerns and stress management. Integrative therapy sessions can address concerns related to spirituality, life-purpose, work-life balance as well as providing meditation and mindfulness support. She conducts couples intensive workshops, groups and consults with organizations on stress reduction and mindfulness. Please email her to arrange a consultation in her Manhattan office or online via Skype.
The International Coach Federation (ICF) reported that individuals experience the following outcomes as a result of working with a life coach:
- Increased self-awareness (67%)
- Enhanced ability to manage stress (57%)
- Better goal setting (62%)
- Self-discovery (53%)
- More balanced life (60%)
- Increased self-confidence (52%)
What is the rate of return when you hire a life coach? Your Return on Investment (ROI) is directly correlated to the amount of dedication you demonstrate toward your growth and development. You get what you give.
Life coaching is a good fit for you if you are:
- A motivated and insightful person who is interested in self reflection and personal growth
- Able to get out of your own way and allow for the "good" and "positive"
- Someone with realistic goals and the desire to meet them
- A person who values commitment and integrity
- An individual who is able to make changes
- Someone who has the capacity for healthy work, personal, and romantic relationships
- Smart and not afraid of hard work