As an introvert, mostly what I've learned is that I am enough, just as I am. Yep, I'd rather be reading next to my sweetheart or hiking in nature than screaming small talk at an event. After reading Susan Cain's book Quiet some time ago, I've made peace with my previously-tortured, introverted "self" who frequently self-flagellated for feeling freakishly abnormal and ashamed that people, noise and extended social interactions left me seeking quiet and solitude for days.
A few years ago, I was at a psychoanalytic event for eating disorders, chatting and doing my best at small-talking with other therapists. it was hot, bright and it was crowded! I found myself hugging the wall for comfort. I politely excused myself and rather frequently to seek some refuge. At some point, a colleagued looked at me intensely and asked "do you have an eating disorder because you keep leaving? I do not, but I wanted to spill and say, "no, I'm an introvert and need to escape NOW." Instead, I simply apologized and stated that I had some "phone calls to return."
I've since developed a great deal of acceptanceRead More