Enjoy this share from Lifehacker on the Four Signs Your Relationship Might Be Doomed highlighting the research of The Gottman Institute. John Gottman describes the "The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse," which are the communication problems that commonly occur and predict couple break-ups with 90% accuracy. The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse are: criticism, defensiveness, contempt and stonewalling and they show up often in intimate relationships. Sound at all familiar? I'm a Gottman fan, and you can't argue with all that research. Enjoy this YouTube video.
Practice acceptance, try compassion and change what you can. Take care, KS
Kim Seelbrede is a former Miss USA and a New York City psychotherapist, coach, consultant and EMDR therapist who specializes in a holistic approach to therapy and coaching, working with adults, adolescents and couples. Kimberly is trained to collaborate with you in developing the insight and coping skills to address many concerns including: relationships, anxiety, depression, panic disorder, self-esteem, self-harm, ADD, ADHD, social difficulties, adolescent challenges, family issues, underachievement, perfectionism, identity and sexuality concerns, addictions, compulsions, OCD, binge eating, PTSD, trauma, transitions, life purpose, spirituality, health concerns, weight management, stress management, performance problems, life balance, meditation and mindfulness support. Please email her to arrange a consultation in her Manhattan office or online via Skype.
Kim completed her graduate studies at New York University and has advanced post-graduate psychotherapy training and also holds an advanced certificate to practice EMDR therapy as well as specialized training in Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT), DBT skills, Non-Violent Communication (NVC), and applies the work of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and her training with The Gottman Institute in her work with couples. She Is a registered yoga therapist (200 + 500 RYT) trained with the Urban Zen Foundation.