Therapy FAQ's

Therapy FAQ's

WHAT CAN I EXPECT?

If you're considering therapy now, then you're experiencing challenges in your own life or with others. Psychotherapy is not like sharing problems with a trusted friend. It involves looking closely at yourself, your situation and the people around you. This can feel difficult and scary, but therapy with a trained therapist can help people find solutions to problems, relieve distressing symptoms such as anxiety and depression, support good mental and physical health, promote integrity and honesty and help individuals develop intimacy in relationships. Reaching your full potential, understanding yourself and others and removing barriers to happiness and fulfillment are but a few goals of successful, effective therapy.  Even though you may have good friends and loved ones to talk to, a therapist with professional training is able to challenge and support you in ways that the people in your life cannot.

HOW DO I KNOW WHAT TO LOOK FOR IN A THERAPIST?

When you choose a therapist, you should feel understood and not judged for the concerns that led you to seek counseling. You should feel comfortable sharing your thoughts and feelings with your potential therapist as the process requires an investment of time and emotional energy. Your therapist should have good interpersonal skills as well as empathy and compassion. You should choose a therapist who has training in the areas that you are seeking help with. Some therapists have received specialized training in areas such as trauma, addictions or eating disorders. If your problems are serious enough to impact the quality of your life and your ability to function, you may need to find a specialist or someone who specializes in your particular problem. Many therapists have received general psychotherapy training and consider themselves generalists and are able to treat a range of difficulties. This article in Psychology Today explains the process as well as list important qualities to look for in a therapist.

HOW LONG WILL I NEED TO BE IN THERAPY?

Your personal needs and goals are always a priority, and will shape the time you spend in sessions. Many individuals desire focused, structured and time-limited sessions with a clear plan targeting specific problems or goals that can be met within a relatively short period of time, while other difficulties require a more intensive focus and may take longer to resolve. This is especially true when people have been struggling for a long time and patterns and habits are rigid and entrenched. Some individuals will find open-ended, regular sessions more helpful. If this is the case, weekly appointments are set and that time is reserved for you to share whatever comes up for you in the week and between sessions, as well as what you're experiencing in the moment with the therapist. This process allows you to examine patterns and dynamics that may be interfering with having the life you desire. 

WHAT KIND OF THERAPY SHOULD I BE LOOKING FOR?

Increasing insight into problems and self-awareness is one goal of therapy, but unfortunately, that alone does not always lead to the desired change. For this reason, and with certain clients, it may be necessary to implement behavioral changes and track progress between sessions. The duration of treatment is highly variable and depends on many factors, including your personal experience with therapy, your goals and the challenges you are managing. You may benefit from a number of different therapeutic strategies and techniques. In your initial consultation, you should work with your therapist to figure out the best approach for your individuals needs. Therapists may use or combine the following approaches: Psychodynamic Psychotherapy, Interpersonal, Relational, Psychoanalytic as well as evidence-based therapies such as EMDR therapy, Dialectical Behavior Therapy or DBT, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy or CBT to name a few, 

ARE MY SESSIONS CONFIDENTIAL?

It is important to know that everything you say in our sessions will be kept confidential. The only exceptions are when there is a danger that you may harm yourself or someone else, or in active cases of abuse. I am obligated by law to disclose that information to the appropriate authorities. These situations are rare. Most people find it a great relief to have a safe place where they are able to share what's on their mind with a nonjudgmental, supportive trained professional.

Neurosis is always a substitute for legitimate suffering
— Carl Jung

A number of benefits are available when you engage in the therapy process. Therapists can provide support, practical problem-solving skills, and enhanced coping strategies for issues such as anxiety, depression, relationship problems, unresolved childhood issues, grief, stress management, body image issues, addictive behaviors and creative blocks. Many people also find that counselors or psychotherapists can be a tremendous asset to managing personal growth, interpersonal relationships, family concerns, marriage issues, and the stresses of daily life. Therapists can provide a fresh perspective on a difficult problem or point you in the direction of a solution. The benefits you obtain from therapy depend on how well you use the process and put into practice what you learn. Sometimes people feel worse before they feel better. There are few quick fixes particularly when client difficulties are long-standing and deeply entrenched patterns and conflicts.   

I view therapy and counseling as a collaborative process in which therapist and client search for a greater understanding of self and others, as well as freedom from symptoms. When looking for a psychotherapist, it's important to find someone that has the skills that would be helpful to address your particular concerns and you should feel a sense of comfort and ease with the therapist that you chose. The process of therapy may help bring important personal growth, insight and awareness as well as uncover unconscious feelings and behaviors and the connection between experiences of the past, and behaviors in the here and now. This process addresses negative patterns and conflicts and ultimately frees clients to make healthier choices, feel happier and have better relationships. Clients are supported to gain the insight and clarity to help navigate difficult life circumstances and dilemmas, heal from traumatic events, develop healthier work and personal relationships and feel resilient, productive and fulfilled. I teach clients techniques and practices to make desired changes in thinking and behavior, leading to improved coping skills and a noticeable improvement in overall functioning and life satisfaction. High-achieving, successful individuals often experience emptiness, unhappiness, disappointment, depression, stress, anxiety and relationship problems which may lead to less than desirable coping solutions such as addictions, alcohol and drug abuse, eating problems and sleep deficits. Depending on the situation and issues, I am often directive and educational in my approach. 

As a New York City therapist, Kimberly Seelbrede is committed to providing comprehensive psychological care to her clients. She provides an eclectic approach and integrative psychotherapy to adolescents, adults and couples. Kimberly’s therapy style focuses on both past and present issues and dynamics as well as solution-focused and evidence-based strategies to help her clients cope with life’s circumstances and emotional concerns. In the fast-paced excitement of living in Manhattan, we often do not take the time we need to create balance and take care of ourselves. The many different aspects of our lives (relationships, spouses, parents, children, care-taking, careers, bosses, clients) can start to add up and cause stress, leading to resentment, anger, anxiety, depression, health problems, substance use and other painful difficulties. Kimberly has successfully helped New Yorker’s develop healthier coping skills and master the challenges that impact and affect their current emotional health.

Therapy helps people gain relief from unpleasant feelings and thoughts, create more fulfilling and meaningful relationships, and gain more pleasure and control in their lives. Psychotherapy helps clients get to the root of their difficulties -- whether troubling patterns and behaviors, past events, loneliness, sadness, loss, anger, worries, self-doubt and/or relationship problems -- and learn ways to become more self-aware, cope with difficult emotions, improve mood, gain control, feel connected, develop the skills to handle future problems, and live a more fulfilling, satisfying life. I specialize in providing EMDR therapy, insight-oriented psychotherapy as well as evidence-based therapies such as CBT and DBT for adolescents, adults and couples. Sessions are provided in a supportive, caring and private setting.

I treat teens, adolescents, adults and couples and am committed to providing both traditional psychotherapy and research-based therapies. I enjoy integrating alternative therapies if desired by clients. I use an integrative approach that incorporates psychodynamic psychotherapy, interpersonal and relational psychotherapy, EMDR therapy, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), dialectical behavior therapy skills (DBT), mindfulness meditation, stress management and relaxation techniques. The adjunctive techniques that I feel comfortable integrating are based on clinical applications from cutting edge neuroscience on effective mind-body therapies. For more information about my counseling practice, you can visit www.nyintegrativetherapy.com

Therapy and counseling can help clients with the following issues:

  • Reframe current life circumstances and gain a different perspective
  • Learn to manage difficult work and personal transitions
  • Gain the support needed to get through difficult times such as loss and change
  • Learn to feel more authentic in one's life
  • Develop healthier coping skills, habits and boundaries 
  • Have healthier relationships at work and in one's personal life
  • Develop awareness of any repetitive patterns that interfere with success and happiness by understanding how past dynamics interfere with the present
  • Manage the difficult people in one's life
  • Develop a path of purpose and life fulfillment
  • Heal from past trauma and abuse and process traumatic memories
  • Increase insight and self-awareness and identify innate strengths
  • Improve communication, conflict resolution, listening and self-assertion skills
  • Address depression and sadness
  • Learn helpful coping skills for stress, anxiety, phobias and panic attacks
  • Relieve stress and insomnia
  • Improve relationships that are unsatisfying, both personal and professional
  • Provide emotional support during life transitions and change such as such as marriage, new baby, mid-life problems and aging
  • Manage destructive patterns that include drinking, eating, drugs and other addictions
  • Understand negative and habitual patterns of thinking and behaving
  • Resolve writing, creative and other performance blocks
  • Mourn losses such as separation, divorce, miscarriage, infertility or death of a love one
  • Develop effective parenting skills

More about therapy:

People experience unhappiness for many reasons including lack of purpose and direction in one's life, disappointment, loss, unfulfilling relationships and chronic, unrelenting stress. Therapy helps individuals increase self-esteem, develop healthy, satisfying relationships and understand self-defeating patterns that interfere with happiness and success. Talking with an experienced therapist can help clients resolve barriers that interfere with joy, compassion, peace, self-esteem, spiritual connection, and love.

Psychotherapy sessions may focus on current or past problems, experiences, thoughts, feelings, or relationships. This may involve learning new skills, trying out new behaviors, working through old issues, grieving, or letting go of things that no longer serve health and well being. In my Manhattan therapy practice, I strive to create an atmosphere of acceptance, both internally and interpersonally. Using creative and practical interventions,  my work is characterized by compassion, intuition and collaboration. When therapy is successful, relationships deepen, work becomes more satisfying and life is richer. Clients learn to take better care of themselves and become more resilient during stressful times by applying the skills they've learned during their investment in therapy.

Therapy FAQ's

What can I expect?

If you're considering therapy now, then you're experiencing challenges in your own life or with others. Psychotherapy is not like sharing problems with a trusted friend. It involves looking closely at yourself, your situation and the people around you. This can feel difficult and scary, but therapy with a trained therapist can help people find solutions to problems, relieve distressing symptoms such as anxiety and depression, support good mental and physical health, promote integrity and honesty and help individuals develop intimacy in relationships. Reaching your full potential, understanding yourself and others and removing barriers to happiness and fulfillment are but a few goals of successful, effective therapy.  Even though you may have good friends and loved ones to talk to, a therapist with professional training is able to challenge and support you in ways that the people in your life cannot.

How do I know what to look for in a therapist?

When you choose a therapist, you should feel understood and not judged for the concerns that led you to seek counseling. You should feel comfortable sharing your thoughts and feelings with your potential therapist as the process requires an investment of time and emotional energy. Your therapist should have good interpersonal skills as well as empathy and compassion. You should choose a therapist who has training in the areas that you are seeking help with. Some therapists have received specialized training in areas such as trauma, addictions or eating disorders. If your problems are serious enough to impact the quality of your life and your ability to function, you may need to find a specialist or someone who specializes in your particular problem. Many therapists have received general psychotherapy training and consider themselves generalists and are able to treat a range of difficulties. This article in Psychology Today explains the process as well as list important qualities to look for in a therapist.

How long will I need to be in therapy?

Your personal needs and goals are always a priority, and will shape the time you spend in sessions. Many individuals desire focused, structured and time-limited sessions with a clear plan targeting specific problems or goals that can be met within a relatively short period of time, while other difficulties require a more intensive focus and may take longer to resolve. This is especially true when people have been struggling for a long time and patterns and habits are rigid and entrenched. Some individuals will find open-ended, regular sessions more helpful. If this is the case, weekly appointments are set and that time is reserved for you to share whatever comes up for you in the week and between sessions, as well as what you're experiencing in the moment with the therapist. This process allows you to examine patterns and dynamics that may be interfering with having the life you desire. 

What kind of therapy should I be looking for?

Increasing insight into problems and self-awareness is one goal of therapy, but unfortunately, that alone does not always lead to the desired change. For this reason, and with certain clients, it may be necessary to implement behavioral changes and track progress between sessions. The duration of treatment is highly variable and depends on many factors, including your personal experience with therapy, your goals and the challenges you are managing. You may benefit from a number of different therapeutic strategies and techniques. In your initial consultation, you should work with your therapist to figure out the best approach for your individuals needs. Therapists may use or combine the following approaches: Psychodynamic Psychotherapy, Interpersonal, Relational, Psychoanalytic as well as evidence-based therapies such as EMDR therapy, Dialectical Behavior Therapy or DBT, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy or CBT to name a few, 

Are my sessions confidential?

It is important to know that everything you say in our sessions will be kept confidential. The only exceptions are when there is a danger that you may harm yourself or someone else, or in active cases of abuse. I am obligated by law to disclose that information to the appropriate authorities. These situations are rare. Most people find it a great relief to have a safe place where they are able to share what's on their mind with a nonjudgmental, supportive trained professional.