Mindfulness is being used by therapists, psychologists and MD’s to treat many physical and psychological problems including anxiety, stress, PTSD, depression, chronic pain, borderline personality disorder (BPD), addictions and eating disorders (ED’s). Therapists who work with complicated disorders such as ED’s find that patients often show an incomplete response to treatment, revealing a need for additional interventions to provide support, skills, and ultimately, symptomatic relief. Continue Reading »
More than 8 million people live in New York City and some of them are SAD, all winter long. As the October leaves begin to change and glide from their branches, the days become increasingly shorter and darker. This is when many people begin to feel the nudge of Seasonal Affective Disorder or SAD. This is the season when many seek the help of a mental health professional such as a psychotherapist or psychologist. Yes, the holidays ignite issues for people such as loss and family conflicts, but for many, the depression and lethargy are the result of insufficient sunlight. To make matters worse, many of us Continue Reading »
We look but do we always see? We have many responsibilities in our daily lives, but to ignore the beauty in the moment, and to deny our senses pleasure and curiosity is a cruel blow to the soul. Every cell in your being screams for joy –- the question is, can you allow yourself to find it? You eat foods that nourish your body, you exercise to maintain your strength and health, but what gifts do you give to your spirit? Recently while giving a Reiki session to a cancer patient, she opened her eyes, and with astonishing clarity and absolute knowing said “every moment is perfect.” My client knows this truth, and yet we allow our very real and often messy problems of life interfere with our ability to “see” the truth and beauty that is abundant – everywhere – in the smallest of places. If you, like many, have your stuff, and your money, and all the trappings of this material world, but still feel a sinking emptiness – there is a way to help yourself! If you are mired in problems and feel hopeless, you too can find some pleasure – if you allow yourself this gift to the soul. Wake up. How, you may ask? I’ve included some nudges in this post that may inspire you to seek more joy, consciously. We are, as humans, pleasure-seeking creatures. Discover what really moves you. Find yourself-share yourself!
- Play. We must take time to fool around, be silly, have fun. We did this as kids why must we give this up? Find your best childhood moments and surround yourself with people who have a similar playful spirit. Using your imagination even as we get older continues to create new neural pathways. Neural connections are good, brain atrophy is very bad! Your inner child is asking you to join her/him.
- Journaling. The act of recording moments of happiness seems to create joy for many people. Recording these moments enhances the experience and makes us better able to pay attention to even more potentially happy moments in the future. Who wouldn’t want to “schedule” more happiness. The art of journaling about what makes us happy shows us that even simple moments – like the sun streaming in the window on a still dewy day – can trump what we think are the “big” ones. Capture the moments.
- Master a new skill. Frustrating as this may be, learning a new skill makes us happier in the long run. It gives us a sense of mastery and accomplishment which boosts self-esteem. Learning something new, and the novelty of that experience excites neural pleasure pathways increasing that feel good dopamine chemical. Our brain loves neurotransmitters in abundance!
- Stuff doesn’t make us happy. However investing in new experiences may. We grow tired of our material possessions and they can always be replaced with newer shinier objects. However, a positive experience remains as good as your memory.
- Nurture with nature. Feel the earth, wiggle your toes, feel the air and grass beneath your feet, breathe the air, sit near water, find the sun, move against the wind, watch the movement of leaves on the trees and study the insects as they busy themselves. It’s really quite fun and informative!
- Discover scent and aromatherapy. Lavender and orange oil reduces stress responses in the nervous system because of a chemical called linalool which alters blood chemistry. I love Young Living Oils and you can research for yourself the many ways that essential oils can nourish your mind and body.
- Discover the wonders of your body. If you are of able body and have the will, strengthen your body. I love the practice of yoga now, but remember the first ten times or so cursing my way through asana. Now I have not only great respect for the breathing, meditation, purifying and alignment aspects of yoga but I am kick-ass strong. Don’t mess with me! If yoga is not your thing, try kickboxing, strength training, whatever – just move and get strong. Give your body what it needs. Feel your way through it.
- Kindness. Practice this. Neuroscientists show that the frontal lobe lights up when we feel compassion and kindness. As well, Oxytocin, the hormone that flows when we feel connected, calms stress and enhances immune function. Touch is an amazing way to ignite compassion in yourself and others. Check out “loving kindness” meditation where we focus on kind thoughts while meditating. Touch someone today!
- Practice good will and give some stuff away. Give up things that you no longer need. The art of decluttering your life and giving to others feels good. Both aspects of cleansing and nurturing can be healing. Better to give than receive.
- Quick walk to less tension. I always tell my clients that less can be more, and certainly better than nothing, especially when you’re in a funky rut. A little bit of something, such as a ten minute walk, can do wonders to lift the spirit and make it possible for joy to find you.
- Hire a life coach. Many have success using the help and skill of an expertly trained life coach to help and support with interference, negative self-talk, resistance and accountability, as well as provide a general kick in the butt during tough times. Changing beliefs, habits and past conditioning as well as moving out of the comfort zone is very difficult. Partnering with a trusted friend, partner or life coach can jump-start you into taking action. Coaching can ask the tough questions that help you find your own answers and brilliance as to why joy seems to slip through your fingers!
- Make joy-finding a priority. Many of my clients are “joy” deprived – seriously. We all are at times. I often hear “well if I don’t take things seriously, then who will” I then say “what a burden for you!” Our notion that hyper-vigilance keeps the boat afloat often doesn’t ring true. Things happen whether we stand guard or not. I’m not advocating becoming irresponsible, just lighten up a bit. Were you raised in an “anti-pleasure environment?” Did you hear “we must suffer or we are not noble?” It’s not too late for you to ” unlearn” that you need not suffer the rest of your years. Say goodbye to your family legacy of “anti joy.” You can learn to let in some light and life and make room for happiness. The details might just be in the small joys that you encounter when you give yourself permission to see, love, feel, touch and experience.
Watch less TV, spend more time with people who bring you joy, get more sleep, clean your house less, play more and write.
Kim Seelbrede is a psychotherapist, EMDR therapist and executive life coach with a private practice in New York City. In her Manhattan therapy practice, Kim has experience addressing the following concerns: relationships, marital difficulties, divorce, parenting, career, professional performance enhancement, anxiety, panic disorder, OCD, depression, loss/grief, adolescent psychotherapy, underachievement, perfectionism, identity issues, LGBT, body image, eating disorders, addiction, substance abuse, sexuality, PTSD, trauma, stress reduction, transitions, life purpose, health concerns, women’s issues, therapy for men, pain management and wellness. Kim Seelbrede has advanced training in EMDR therapy and Brainspotting and uses it with clients who prefer to work in this way, or when she feels it is a technique that will be helpful for the client. Clients include CEOS, senior executives, entrepreneurs, financial analysts, performers and creative individuals with a focus on helping them identify and remove barriers to success and happiness. To learn more about her coaching or psychotherapy approach, call 646.248.9196 or email using the link to the right.
Kim holds a master’s degree in social work from New York University (MSW) and received advanced post-graduate training inpsychodynamic psychotherapy and cognitive behavior therapy (CBT) from New York University. Kim uses an eclectic approach which draws from attachment theory, object relations theory, self-psychology, ego-psychology, family systems, CBT, crisis counseling and solution-focused therapy with her clients as needed. Kim has pursued advanced education in the fields of psychology, wellness and complementary health care for nearly 10 years. Kim draws from extensive education and life experiences including training from the Urban Zen Integrative Therapist Program (UZIT) during which she completed clinical rotations working directly with cancer and surgical patients at Hope Lodge and at Beth Israel Medical Center and has studied nutritional theories from leading experts in the field. Kim Seelbrede is an integrative healthcare blogger for the Urban Zen Foundation.
In her separate integrative therapy practice Kim Seelbrede works with healthy clients as well as clients facing and managing health challenges. Kim collaborates with health care providers and can provide support with the following techniques: gentle yoga movement, restorative yoga poses, stress reduction, breath awareness (pranayama), controlled breathing techniques, guided imagery, meditation, nutrition, essential oil treatment (aromatherapy), Reiki, life coaching and contemplative care. All of these unique integrative therapy modalities provide a gentle and balanced approach to the following concerns: pain, anxiety, nausea, insomnia, digestive issues, fatigue and serious chronic illness. Kim Seelbrede offers adjunctive EMDR, meditation and yoga therapy to medical and mental health professionals in New York City.
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Depression is a painful and lonely experience that robs you of life’s pleasures. Perhaps you awaken with a sense of dread and, most days, you feel hopeless, helpless and numb. Help is possible through depression therapy and depression counseling. According to the Archives of General Psychiatry, approximately 14.8 million adult Americans are suffering from major depressive disorder during any given year. Based on statistics from the Center for Mental Health Services, U.S. Dept. of Health and Human Services, an estimated 1 in 33 children and adolescents suffer from clinical depression. The symptoms of depression can vary considerably between individuals. Some symptoms include:depression therapist New York City
- Intense feelings of sadness, worthlessness, loneliness, and hopelessness
- Difficulty concentrating and making decisions
- Fatigue, body aches and lack of motivation
- Negative feelings, thoughts and emotions
- Inability to enjoy activities that were once pleasurable
- Thoughts of suicide with or without a plan
- Increase/decrease or erratic sleep patterns
- Increase in appetite/decreased appetite
- Feeling empty
- No interest in planning for the future
- Loss of interest in sex
Transitions that can also contribute to depression
- Separation or divorce
- Career change
- Major health issues
- Financial woes
- Miscarriage or Infertility
One of the most telling symptoms of depression is a lack of motivation to fulfill basic responsibilities and activities of daily living. It is common for an individual to disconnect from the outside world and avoid personal, social, and work duties. A severely depressed person can feel so tired and unmotivated that he or she cannot even get out of bed, much less socialize with others, take care of children, complete household chores, or go to work.
There are many different treatment options available for those diagnosed with clinical depression. A doctor or psychiatrist may prescribe an antidepressant that helps balance serotonin, norepinephrine and other neurotransmitter levels in the brain. Many people find relief by discussing their problems with licensed therapists, who can help them uncover the root of their depression and suggest ways to overcome symptoms and change behaviors. Individuals with severe depression can benefit by admitting themselves into psychiatric wards, where doctors and therapists can provide constant, direct care. With the appropriate diagnosis and treatment many individuals achieve symptom relief or reduction.
Bipolar disorder, formerly known as manic-depressive illness, is a biological brain disorder that results in extreme psychological and emotional mood swings. Mood swings associated with bipolar disorder can be so severe that, if left untreated, may have severe consequences for the sufferer. Bipolar disorder affects all aspects of a person’s life.
While everyone experiences highs and lows, bipolar disorder magnifies and intensifies ups and downs to an extreme. A person suffering from bipolar disorder does not just feel “blue” but utterly hopeless, ineffectual and nonvital. These feelings of intense depression often lead to suicidal thoughts or an obsession with suicide. The manic or “high” end of bipolar disorder also grossly exaggerates reality. Excessive energy and exuberance, visions of grandiosity, and delusions of being all-powerful are common. Though the person might feel empowered, ideas race through the mind and focus is limited or impossible. The personality is often uncharacteristically verbose, self-aggrandizing, and sexually aggressive or promiscuous in inappropriate situations and circumstances.
While those close to the sufferer often experience the lows as common depressive episodes, the highs can be alarming. A person in the throes of a manic mood swing can have psychotic symptoms. Those suffering from bipolar disorder cycle throughout life from one state to the next. Between the manic and depressive states there is often a period of normality. For some, the manic mood might be less pronounced than the depressive mood. Time periods for completed cycles also vary. A cycle might take a week or longer, or one might experience many cycles within a single day. This is referred to as rapid-cycling.
Medical experts report that bipolar disorder can occur in any age group. Fortunately, there are many treatment options for bipolar disorder. Mood stabilizing medications, talk therapy and other regimens can make the difference between the highs and lows and the ability to be stable and happy. Treatment is ongoing, as the disorder is not cured but managed. Though scientists don’t yet know what causes bipolar disorder, they do recognize it as having a genetic component and is likely part of a larger interplay of various factors, as evidence suggests it is not genetic alone.
Kimberly Seelbrede is a psychotherapist, EMDR therapist and integrative yoga therapist with a private practice in New York City, downtown near Union Square/Flatiron and on the Upper East Side of Manhattan. She provides therapy, EMDR therapy, hypnotherapy, mind/body techniques, coaching and stress management for individuals, couples and groups. Kimberly helps clients overcome obstacles such as conflicts and lifestyle habits that are preventing them from healthy and satisfying relationships, enhanced self-esteem and happiness. She has experience treating the following concerns: anxiety, phobias, depression, relationship issues, marriage counseling, career issues, stress management, coping skills, performance enhancement for career and performance, creative blocks, bereavement and loss, post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), addictions and substance abuse recovery support, codependency, smoking cessation, weight issues, pain management and major life transitions.