Recommended Reading

Abandonment Issues:
• Anderson, Susan; The Journey from Abandonment to Healing: Turn the End of a Relationship into the Beginning of a New Life

Addiction and Recovery:
• Fletcher, Anne; Sober for Good

Attention Deficit Disorder: (ADD)
• Barkely, Russell A; Taking Charge of Adult ADHD
• Kelly, Kate and Ramundo, Peggy; You Mean I’m Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy?
• Nadeau, Kathleen; Understanding Girls with ADHD

Adoption:
• Schaffer, Judith and Lindstrom, Christina; How to Raise an Adopted Child: A Guide to Help Your Child Flourish from Infancy Through Adolescence

Adultery:
• Spring, J.A.; How Can I Forgive You? The Courage to Forgive
• Spring, J.A.; After the Affair

Aging Parents:
• Morris, V.; How to Care for Aging Parents
• Pipher, M.; Another Country

Anxiety Disorders:
• Bourne, Edmund J.; The Anxiety & Phobia Workbook
• Edna B. Foa and Reid Wilson; Stop Obsessing!: How to Overcome Your
Obsessions and Compulsions
• Levenkron, Steven; Obsessive Compulsive Disorder: Treating and Understanding Crippling Habits

Break Up or Divorce:
• Sussman, Rachel; The Break Up Bible – The Wise Woman’s Guide to Healing from your Break Up or Divorce (Random House – Release Date, December, 2011)

Bi Polar Disorder:
• Jamison, Kay Redfield; An Unquiet Mind: A Memoir of Moods and
Madness

Brain Health:
• Amen, M.D., Daniel; Change your Brain, Change your Life
• Siegel, MD, Daniel; The Developing Mind: How Relationships and the Brain Interact to Shape Who We Are

Career Change / Job Search:
• Anderson, Nancy; Passion; How to do What You Love for a Living
• Berman Fortgang, Laura; Now What? 90 Days to a New Life Direction
• Bolles, Richard; What Color is Your Parachute? 2005: A Practical Manual for Job Hunters and Career Changers
• Braun Levine,Suzanne; Inventing the Rest of Our Lives:Women in Second Adulthood
• Bronson, Po;What Should I Do With My Life?
• Erickson Walker, Jean;The Age Advantage: Making the Most of your Midlife Career Transition
• Figler, Howard; The Complete Job Search Handbook
• Ibarra, Herminia;Working Identity: Unconventional Strategies for Reinventing Your Career
• Jackson, Tom; Guerilla Tactics in the Job Market
• Ryan, Robin;What To Do With The Rest of Your Life
• Sher, Barbara;Wishcraft
• Taylor,Jeff;Monster Careers
• Wendleton,Kate;Targeting the Job You Want (the Five o’Clock Club)

Dating:
• Cohen, Jeff and Cohen, Carol; Dating, Inc.: Recruit, Select, and Retain the Right Man for the Relationship

Depression: 
• Real, Terrance; I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression
• Wayne J Katon, Evette Ludman, Gregory Simon; The Depression Helpbook

Eating Disorders:
• Costin, Carolyn; The Eating Disorder Sourcebook; A Comprehensive Guide
• Hall, Lindsey & Cohn, Leigh; Bulimia: A Guide to Recovery
• Roth, Geneen; When Food is Love
• Roth, Geneen; Breaking Free from Emotional Eating
• Roth, Geneen; Feeding the Hungry Heart

Managing Finances:
• Ramsey, Dave; The total money make over

Nutrition:
• Bauer, Joy; Slim and Scrumptious: More Than 75 Delicious, Healthy Meals Your Family Will Love
• Bauer, Joy; Food Cures

Personality Disorders (Narcissism/ Borderline Personality):
• Golomb, Elan; Trapped in the Mirror
• Masterson, James; Search for the Real Self
• Miller, Alice; The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self

Relationships, Intimacy & Sexuality:
• Barbach, L.; For Each Other: Sharing Sexual Intimacy
• Barbach, L.; For Yourself: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality (for women)
• Barbach, L.; Pleasures: Women Write Erotica (for women)
• Butler and Lewis; Sex After Sixty
• Enright, R.D.; Forgiveness Is a Choice: A Step-by-Step Process for Resolving Anger and Restoring Hope
• Gottman, John, Silver, Nan; Seven Principals for Making Marriage Work
• Gottman, John, Gottman Schwartz, Julie; Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage
• Gottman, John; The Relationship Cure
• Gottman, John; The Seven Principals for Making Your Marriage Work
• Hendrix, H.; Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples
• Johnson, Sue; Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love
• Lerner, Harriet; The Dance of Connection
• McCarthy, B. & McCarthy, E., Sexual Awareness: Enhancing Sexual Pleasure
• O Connor, D.; How to Make Love to the Same Person for the Rest of Your Life and Still Enjoy It
• Real, Terrence; The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work
• Real, Terrence; How Can I Get Through to You? Closing the Intimacy Gap Between Men and Women
• Schnarch, D.; Passionate Marriage
• Zilbergeld; The New Male Sexuality (for men)

Meditation: 
• Kabat-Zinn, Jon; Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation in Everyday Life
• Salzberg, Sharon; Insight Meditation; A Step- by- Step Course on How to Meditate

Parenting: 
• Pipher, M.; Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls
• Mogel, W.; The Blessings of a Skinned Knee
• Taffel, Ron; Parenting by Heart: How to Stay Connected to Your Child in a Disconnected World
• Levine, Mel; A Mind at a Time
• Siegel, D. and Harzell, M.; Parenting from the Inside Out: How a Deeper Self-Understanding can help you raise children who thrive

Spirituality:
• Kornfield, Jack; A Path With Heart – A Guide Through the Perils and Promises of Spiritual Life
• Kornfield, Jack; A Wise Heart – A Guide to the Universal Teachings of Buddhist Psychology
• Thich Nhat Hanh; The Heart of the Buddha’s Teaching by

Sexual Abuse:
• Bass, E. and Davis, L.; The Courage to Heal
• Davis, L.; The Courage to Heal Workbook
• Naparstek, Bellruth; Invisible Heroes: Survivors of Trauma and How they Heal

Trauma & Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD):
• Herman, J.; Trauma and Recovery

Psychotherapy, Psychoanalysis and General Psychology Books:

The Interpersonal World of the Infant: A View from Psychoanalysis and Developmental Psychology - Daniel N. Stern

An Elementary Textbook of Psychoanalysis - Charles Brenner

Psychoanalytic Diagnosis: Understanding Personality in Structure in the Clinical Process - Nancy McWilliams PhD.

Relational Concepts in Psychoanalysis:  An Integration - Stephen A. Mitchell

Object Relations Theory and Clinical Psychoanalysis - Otto F. Kernberg

Self Help

Why Is It Always About You: The Seven Deadly sins of Narcissism - Sandy Hotchkiss & James F Masterson

The Drama of the Gifted Child:  The Search for the True Self - Alice Miller

The Worry Cure:  Seven Steps to Stop Worry from Stopping You - Robert L. Leahy.   The Worry Cure is his new, comprehensive approach to help you identify, challenge, and overcome all types of worry, using the most recent research and his more than two decades of experience in treating patients.

Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life - Linda Martinez-Lewi. In Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life, psychotherapist Linda Martinez-Lewi presents an in-depth and supportive plan for identifying, understanding, and dealing with high level narcissistic behavior in those close to you.

Unchained Memories:  True Stories of Traumatic Memories Lost and Found - Lenore Terr

Touched with Fire:  Manic-Depressive Illness and the Artistic Temperament - Kay Redfield Jamison

Trapped in the Mirror - Elan Golomb.  The difficulties experienced by adult children of narcissists can manifest themselves in many ways: for examples, physical self-loathing that takes form of overeating, anorexia, or bulimia; a self-destructive streak that causes poor job performance and rocky personal relationships; or a struggle with the self that is perpetuated in the adult’s interaction with his or her own children.

Loves Executioner - Irvin D. Yalom.  The collection of ten absorbing tales by master psychotherapist Irvin D. Yalom uncovers the mysteries, frustrations, pathos, and humor at the heart of the therapeutic encounter. In recounting his patients’ dilemmas, the author provides aglimpse into their personal desires and motivations and his own struggles to reconcile his all-too human responses with his sensibility as a psychiatrist.

Trauma and Recovery:  The Aftermath of Violence — from Domestic Abuse to Political Terror - Judith Herman

Thoughts Without a Thinker:  Psychotherapy From A Buddhist Perspective - Mark Epstein.  Thoughts Without a Thinker is a major contribution to today’s exploding discussion of how Eastern spirituality can enhance Western psychology. In it, Mark Epstein argues that the contemplative traditions of the East can be extremely beneficial to patients, not just in helping them recognize their problems, but by giving them the strength to heal.

Psychotherapy, Psychoanalysis and General Psychology Books

The Interpersonal World of the Infant: A View from Psychoanalysis and Developmental Psychology - Daniel N. Stern

An Elementary Textbook of Psychoanalysis - Charles Brenner

Psychoanalytic Diagnosis: Understanding Personality in Structure in the Clinical Process - Nancy McWilliams PhD.

Relational Concepts in Psychoanalysis:  An Integration - Stephen A. Mitchell

Object Relations Theory and Clinical Psychoanalysis - Otto F. Kernberg

Self Help

Why Is It Always About You: The Seven Deadly sins of Narcissism - Sandy Hotchkiss & James F Masterson

The Drama of the Gifted Child:  The Search for the True Self - Alice Miller

The Worry Cure:  Seven Steps to Stop Worry from Stopping You - Robert L. Leahy.   The Worry Cure is his new, comprehensive approach to help you identify, challenge, and overcome all types of worry, using the most recent research and his more than two decades of experience in treating patients.

Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life - Linda Martinez-Lewi. In Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life, psychotherapist Linda Martinez-Lewi presents an in-depth and supportive plan for identifying, understanding, and dealing with high level narcissistic behavior in those close to you.

Unchained Memories:  True Stories of Traumatic Memories Lost and Found - Lenore Terr

Touched with Fire:  Manic-Depressive Illness and the Artistic Temperament - Kay Redfield Jamison

Trapped in the Mirror - Elan Golomb.  The difficulties experienced by adult children of narcissists can manifest themselves in many ways: for examples, physical self-loathing that takes form of overeating, anorexia, or bulimia; a self-destructive streak that causes poor job performance and rocky personal relationships; or a struggle with the self that is perpetuated in the adult’s interaction with his or her own children.

Loves Executioner - Irvin D. Yalom.  The collection of ten absorbing tales by master psychotherapist Irvin D. Yalom uncovers the mysteries, frustrations, pathos, and humor at the heart of the therapeutic encounter. In recounting his patients’ dilemmas, the author provides aglimpse into their personal desires and motivations and his own struggles to reconcile his all-too human responses with his sensibility as a psychiatrist.

Trauma and Recovery:  The Aftermath of Violence — from Domestic Abuse to Political Terror - Judith Herman

Thoughts Without a Thinker:  Psychotherapy From A Buddhist Perspective - Mark Epstein.  Thoughts Without a Thinker is a major contribution to today’s exploding discussion of how Eastern spirituality can enhance Western psychology. In it, Mark Epstein argues that the contemplative traditions of the East can be extremely beneficial to patients, not just in helping them recognize their problems, but by giving them the strength to heal.

Kim Seelbrede is a psychotherapist and therapist with psychoanalytic psychotherapy, CBT & EMDR training in New York City, NY serving patients residing in Manhattan, Brooklyn, Long Island and Connecticut. Therapist Kim Seelbrede can also provide therapy for patients from Westchester County and the Long Island counties of Nassau and Suffolk who wish to schedule an appointment at her New York City office. Kim Seelbrede coaches and provides therapy to celebrity and high-profile clients residing in Hollywood, New York and worldwide using video, phone and Skype.