Women are notorious for putting the needs of others ahead of their own. Even though times have changed, women still struggle with the cultural, social and political forces that have defined their gender roles throughout history. Often they are perceived as being too emotional and weak, or criticized and for being too assertive. Unrealistic demands of perfectionism, as well as unreasonable expectations by others to be perfect, to meet everyone’s needs, and to "do it all" and well, is a burden for many women. Although women and men often suffer from the same kinds of problems such as depression, anxiety and relationship issues, women often experience them differently because they tend to take responsibility for too much, feel guilty when they are not looking after everyone else’s needs, and often blame themselves for their problems. Many of these women are “adult survivors” of childhood trauma – verbal, physical, even sexual abuse.
All of this can easily leave you feeling depleted, depressed, angry or resentful. And try as you might to pull yourself out of these feelings, you can’t. You may even start hurting yourself by binging on food or starving yourself (eating disorders), abusing alcohol or drugs, and other forms of self-sabotage.
Does the idea of admitting that you have needs feel selfish and indulgent? Here’s why it shouldn’t and a few ways to prioritize taking care of you.
When you practice self-care, you give others the permission to do the same. Throughout the lifespan, we continue to consolidate our identity. When you put yourself first, you are likely modeling this for others such as your daughter, your sister or a friend. When you empower yourself you experience less anger and resentment – both powerful emotions beneath the surface and not in your awareness but affecting you in a powerful way. In order to make long lasting and meaningful change you must begin to understand who you are and what you want in life. Like so many women, now is the time to reconnect to your true self and become more self-aware! This is your personal life journey, you re-write the script and discover new and different choices! By following your heart, you will tap into your innate strength and wisdom that will lead you through challenges and toward a life you love! Your life. It’s not selfish and being selfless to the point of depletion is not a virtue, it’s self destructive. Liberate yourself and practice self-care liberally.
Life transition counseling is for those who seek the next step in their lives and are in need of support to make the transition. You will identify goals and dreams and build upon the strengths you currently possess to explore the strengths or traits needed for the next stage of your life. In all transitions, you must be willing to explore your fears, examine your expectations and self-limiting notions and imagine the possibilities. Those transitions may involve the following:
- A career change
- Relationship building after relocation
- Moving from married life to single life
- Family planning
- Caring for elderly parents
- Divorce recovery and remarriage
- Developing a life plan
- Redefining your life’s purpose
- Confronting the “empty nest”
- Deepening your experience of intimacy and satisfaction in life
- Sexual healing
- Achieving emotional/spiritual/intellectual balance.
If you resonate with any of the following, counseling can help:
- You feel anxious, sad or depressed much of the time.
- You are struggling with issues of self-esteem or poor body image.
- You are suffering due to a traumatic event such as childhood abuse.
- You give too much to others and don’t get enough of what you need.
- You often feel hurt by friends, family, or your partner.
- You keep repeating negative relationship patterns.
- You are grieving the loss of a relationship.
- You are experiencing some sexual issues
- You are struggling with addictions (alcohol, illegal or prescription drugs, food, sex, love, shopping, etc.)
- You are having problems with your children or teenager
It Doesn’t Matter How Long You’ve Been Suffering…
A good therapist can help.
You may need some counseling to get you to the place where you feel in control of your life again, but you CAN get there.
Through therapy you can:
- Feel better about yourself, and your day to day life.
- Have more fulfilling relationships.
- Communicate more effectively so that you get what you need.
- Take better care of yourself and learn to set boundaries and limits.
- Overcome addictions and get support for recovery.
- Feel more connected and intimate with others.
- Become a stronger, more confident and loving parent.
- Defeat or manage eating disorders.
The counselors at The Relationship Center of South Florida have helped hundreds of women resolve a variety of problems and create more meaningful lives.
Our advanced counseling techniques are proven to work. This combined with our vast experience, make us some of the most sought after therapists in the Boca Raton area.
Our therapists understand the pain that women feel and we know how to transform pain into personal growth, empowerment, and a fulfilling and more joyful life.