Looking back, nobody really tells you just how hard it is to grow up and "find yourself" and that that process may happen sooner for some, while others still feel lost in some way decades later. Which is not to say that the journey along the way can't be filled with intrigue and lots of interesting learning experiences. It's absolutely heartbreaking in therapy sessions as twenty-somethings sob "it was supposed to be different, and easier." Accepting the fact that people do things in their own way and on different timelines should be acknowledged and normalized for adolescents and young adults, so that those who do meander don't feel so broken, or hopeless. Adolescents and young adults really struggle to find their way in the world -- finding purpose and meaning feels hard. Many have to go it alone without solid role models or mentors. Leo Babauta makes a good point when he says, and I paraphrase, that even the kids who seem to be on a path (think doctor, lawyer, accountant, etc.), often find themselves rethinking things later. My adolescents and young adult clients in therapy often say things like "everyone else seems happy and just know what they want accept me." Maybe, but maybe not, and perhaps they too will one day find themselves rethinking their chosen paths. I love this sage advice for the "young and trying to figure it all out" from Leo Babauta over at Zen Habits. Really awesome, read it here... zenhabits.net
Kimberly Seelbrede, LCSW is a licensed Psychotherapist, EMDR Therapist and Personal Coach with a private practice in New York City. As a clinician who is passionate about the interplay between mind and body, she practices mind-body psychotherapy, providing holistic counseling and coaching for her clients. Her counseling modalities include: psychoanalytic psychotherapy EMDR therapy, CBT, DBT, mindfulness, crisis counseling and coaching with expertise in anxiety, depression, pain and chronic disease management, eating disorders (anorexia, binge eating, bulimia), addictions, alcoholism, trauma resolution, relationship + marital difficulties, women's issues (postpartum depression, new parent, divorce, separation, hormone imbalance), performance blocks, self-defeating behaviors, loss, grief, loneliness, self-esteem issues, post-rehab support and sexual problems. Via Skype, Kim Seelbrede provides life coaching, executive, personal and career coaching. Kim Seelbrede works with celebrities and high-profile individuals as well as high-level entrepreneurs and Fortune 500 executives around the world including London, Hong Kong, New York, Los Angeles, San Francisco, Boston, Connecticut and Washington. Her professional personal and executive coaching services are tailored to each clients individual needs and targets concerns such as feeling stagnate and stuck, self-assertion, self-sabotage, substance abuse, pain management, chronic illness, work/life balance, performance problems, communication challenges, anxiety and stress management/reduction.
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