Reconnecting with Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples

If you are a couple, married or in a relationship, and would like to improve communication, increase intimacy, stop fighting and renew the spark of earlier feelings, then working with a therapist who applies Emotionally Focused Therapy or EFT could be for you! What is Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples? EFT is a short-term psychotherapy method for couples, and considered one of the most effective approaches for marriage and couples therapy. The goal of EFT is to reconnect partners and is based on well-tested theory and decades of research and clinical practice. How does EFT work? EFT focuses on what makes relationships distressed and provides a map to heal the patterns and wounds that are a destructive force in many relationships. EFT helps couples by working to strengthen attachment bonds and emotional responsiveness, which leads to an experience of belonging, comfort, safety and acceptance. As this happens, couples feel increasingly more confident in their ability to effectively solve problems, resolve negative repetitive fights and patterns, dissolve feelings of distance and disrespect and learn effective ways to lovingly work together to face future challenges.

What is the course of treatment with EFT therapy? EFT is a short-term therapy experience unlike typical relationship counseling that can last for years. In EFT, research studies show that over 70% of couples improved their relationship, moving from distressed to happy in 15 – 20 sessions.  Over 90% of couples experienced significant improvement in their relationship. EFT was developed by Sue Johnson and Les Greenberg and is based on John Bowlby’s Attachment Theory and research.  

What four leading experts say about EFT:

“EFT is a proven road map to the process of change in couples therapy.”John M. Gottman, Ph.D., world-renowned marriage expert, cofounder of the Seattle Marital and Family Institute and The Gottman Institute, Professor of Psychology, University of Washington, and bestselling author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. (

“EFT is one of the best documented, most substantive and well researched approaches to couple therapy.”Alan S. Gurman, Ph.D., Emeritus Professor of Psychiatry and Director of Family Therapy Training, University of Wisconsin Medical School, and a leading authority on the clinical practice of couple therapy.

EFT is “one of the few approaches to marital therapy that has been proven to be effective.”Jay Lebow, Ph.D., LMFT, ABPP, Past President, Division of Family Psychology, American Psychological Association (; Research Consultant, The Family Institute, Northwestern University (

“Rigorous studies during the past fifteen years have shown that 70 to 75 percent of couples who go through EFT recover from distress and are happy in their relationships. The results appear lasting, even with couples at high risk for divorce.”  Dr. Sue Johnson, Professor of Clinical Psychology, University of Ottawa; Director of Ottawa Couple and Family Institute and International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (; Research Professor, Alliant University (

Kimberly Seelbrede, LCSW is a licensed Psychotherapist, EMDR Therapist and Personal Coach with a private practice in New York City. As a clinician who is passionate about the interplay between mind and body, she practices mind-body psychotherapy, providing holistic counseling and coaching for her clients. Her counseling modalities include: psychoanalytic psychotherapy EMDR therapy, CBT, DBT, mindfulness, crisis counseling and coaching with expertise in anxiety, depression, pain and chronic disease management, eating disorders (anorexia, binge eating, bulimia), addictions, alcoholism, trauma resolution, relationship + marital difficulties, women's issues (postpartum depression, new parent, divorce, separation, hormone imbalance), performance blocks, self-defeating behaviors, loss, grief, loneliness, self-esteem issues, post-rehab support and sexual problems. Via Skype, Kim Seelbrede provides life coaching, executive, personal and career coaching. Kim Seelbrede works with celebrities and high-profile individuals as well as high-level entrepreneurs and Fortune 500 executives around the world including London, Hong Kong, New York, Los Angeles, San Francisco, Boston, Connecticut and Washington. Her professional personal and executive coaching services are tailored to each clients individual needs and targets concerns such as feeling stagnate and stuck, self-assertion, self-sabotage, substance abuse, pain management, chronic illness, work/life balance, performance problems, communication challenges, anxiety and stress management/reduction.

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