Would You Rather Be Right Or Happy?
Is your desire to be RIGHT in your relationship and with your partner greater than your desire to be HAPPY?
Think about this whenever conflicts arise. It is through our intimate connections that the most complex and messy parts of ourselves are mirrored by the other. Intimate relationships are complex and can be confusing. Before you know it, his stuff, becomes your stuff and now the stuff belongs to both of you, and the other way around. The neurotic pull to master "old wounds" by looping in the same dynamics with your significant other is powerful. Recognizing the "dance" that couples engage in -- the triggers and the traps -- and learning to recognize and stop habitual, destructive patterns when they arise is the key to a happier, healthier relationship.