About Self-Esteem Therapy

Many people seek therapy to help with long-standing problems related to their sense of self. Self-esteem involves a combination of beliefs about oneself which includes emotions, appearance and behaviors and may be caused by many things including people who have hurt you in the past or one’s own harsh self-judgment. Many people find that their self esteem varies depending on the situation, or even day-to-day. People with poor self-esteem seem unable to look beyond any limitations and problems, missing the fuller, bigger picture of who they really are. They also tend to be less resilient and overreact when criticized. They may find themselves engaging in self-destructive and self-sabotaging behaviors, as well as obsessional behaviors, promiscuity, anger, aggression, blaming, avoidance of reality and isolation.

Therapy is an excellent way to gain understanding about the root of self-esteem problems, learn to challenge negative self-assessments and develop the skills to to help you feel more positive and cope with new challenges and personal disappointments. Psychotherapy can help improve both adolescent and adult self-esteem problems. In therapy, one learns to set realistic and appropriate goals, learn positive self-talk, identify and develop strengths, create a strong social support network and contribute to community and develop areas of interest. An important aspect of self-esteem psychotherapy includes identifying underlying blocking beliefs that may interfere with implementing positive change behaviors. EMDR therapy can be especially helpful for this aspect of treatment. In addition to building confidence and developing non-judgmental awareness and acceptance, self-esteem therapy helps in the following ways:

  • Identify and celebrate personal strengths and achievements
  • Participate in activities that build confidence
  • Challenge negative self-talk and replace with accurate evaluations
  • Learn to forgive oneself for past mistakes
  • Accept mistakes and flaws but stop dwelling on them
  • Learn to stop comparing and judging oneself against unreasonable standards
  • Develop realistic, attainable goals
  • Learn to take risks and do what you believe to be right
  • Feel less dependent on what others think

As a psychotherapist with an eclectic approach, I use a variety of helpful techniques when working with adolescents and adults with self-esteem issues including EMDR therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, DBT skills, Radical Acceptance and Mindfulness-based approaches.

NYC Therapist Kimberly Seelbrede, LCSW is a skilled Psychotherapist, Relationship and Stress Reduction Expert in New York City. She provides therapy, EMDR & Coaching to individuals and couples.

Kimberly Seelbrede, LCSW is a licensed Psychotherapist, EMDR Therapist and Personal Coach with a private practice in New York City. As a clinician who is passionate about the interplay between mind and body, she practices mind-body psychotherapy, providing holistic counseling and coaching for her clients. Her counseling modalities include: psychoanalytic psychotherapy EMDR therapy, CBT, DBT, mindfulness, crisis counseling and coaching with expertise in anxiety, depression, pain and chronic disease management, eating disorders (anorexia, binge eating, bulimia), addictions, alcoholism, trauma resolution, relationship + marital difficulties, women's issues (postpartum depression, new parent, divorce, separation, hormone imbalance), performance blocks, self-defeating behaviors, loss, grief, loneliness, self-esteem issues, post-rehab support and sexual problems. Via Skype, Kim Seelbrede provides life coaching, executive, personal and career coaching. Kim Seelbrede works with celebrities and high-profile individuals as well as high-level entrepreneurs and Fortune 500 executives around the world including London, Hong Kong, New York, Los Angeles, San Francisco, Boston, Connecticut and Washington. Her professional personal and executive coaching services are tailored to each clients individual needs and targets concerns such as feeling stagnate and stuck, self-assertion, self-sabotage, substance abuse, pain management, chronic illness, work/life balance, performance problems, communication challenges, anxiety and stress management/reduction.

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