#shrinkthinks - To Be A Parent

Nothing has a stronger influence psychologically on their environment and especially on their children than the unlived life of the parent. ~Carl Jungtherapist nycTell me and I forget, teach me and I may remember, involve me and I learn. ~Benjamin Franklin
If your kid needs a role model and you ain't it, you're both fucked.  ~George Carlin, Brain Droppings
The shoe that fits one person pinches another; there is no recipe for living that suits all cases. ~Carl Jung
Your children are not your children. They are sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.  They come through you but not from you. And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.  You may give them your love but not your thoughts,  for they have their own thoughts.  You may house their bodies but not their souls, for their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.  You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you. For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.  You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth. The archer sees the make upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.  Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness.  For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He also loves the bow that is stable.  ~Kahlil Gibran
To be in your children's memories tomorrow,  You have to be in their lives today.  ~Barbara Johnson
Let me say for now that we knew once the Creation was broken, true fathering would be much more lacking than mothering. Don't misunderstand me, both are needed- but an emphasis on fathering is necessary because of the enormity of its absence.  ~Wm. Paul Young, The Shack: Where Tragedy Confronts Eternity
It's impossible to protect your kids against disappointment in life.  ~Nicholas Sparks, Message in a Bottle
Sometimes, kids want you to hurt the way they hurt.  ~Mitch Albom
Adults constantly raise the bar on smart children, precisely because they're able to handle it. The children get overwhelmed by the tasks in front of them and gradually lose the sort of openness and sense of accomplishment they innately have. When they're treated like that, children start to crawl inside a shell and keep everything inside. It takes a lot of time and effort to get them to open up again. Kids' hearts are malleable, but once they gel it's hard to get them back the way they were.  ~Haruki Murakami, Kafka `on the Shore
Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them.  ~James Baldwin
We are all, I suppose, beholden to our parents - the question is, how much?  ~Jodi Picoult, My Sister's Keeper
Children must be taught how to think, not what to think.  ~Margaret Mead
If you are a parent, open doors to unknown directions to the child so he can explore. Don't make him afraid of the unknown,give him support. ~Osho
Practice acceptance, try compassion and change what you can. KS

Kimberly Seelbrede, LCSW is a licensed Psychotherapist, EMDR Therapist and Personal Coach with a private practice in New York City. As a clinician who is passionate about the interplay between mind and body, she practices mind-body psychotherapy, providing holistic counseling and coaching for her clients. Her counseling modalities include: psychoanalytic psychotherapy EMDR therapy, CBT, DBT, mindfulness, crisis counseling and coaching with expertise in anxiety, depression, pain and chronic disease management, eating disorders (anorexia, binge eating, bulimia), addictions, alcoholism, trauma resolution, relationship + marital difficulties, women's issues (postpartum depression, new parent, divorce, separation, hormone imbalance), performance blocks, self-defeating behaviors, loss, grief, loneliness, self-esteem issues, post-rehab support and sexual problems. Via Skype, Kim Seelbrede provides life coaching, executive, personal and career coaching. Kim Seelbrede works with celebrities and high-profile individuals as well as high-level entrepreneurs and Fortune 500 executives around the world including London, Hong Kong, New York, Los Angeles, San Francisco, Boston, Connecticut and Washington. Her professional personal and executive coaching services are tailored to each clients individual needs and targets concerns such as feeling stagnate and stuck, self-assertion, self-sabotage, substance abuse, pain management, chronic illness, work/life balance, performance problems, communication challenges, anxiety and stress management/reduction.

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