Every day (or moment) is an opportunity for a fresh start.
Whatever dynamic you find yourself playing out with yourself, a loved-one or a work colleague, pause, notice it and hit the reset button. Fresh start. Notice what you're doing by making a non-judgmental observation. "Oh, this is happening again -- familiar stuff -- I'm feeling triggered!" Perhaps your triggering the other and the dance begins. Shift. Take some space if you need to. The point is... do something different. Don't engage or allow yourself to be pulled-in -- as tempting as it may be -- and stop the bleeding in the moment. This tactic is especially helpful with couples and during the frenetic holiday season. Time spent with family can increase levels of stress, feelings get hurt and destructive behaviors may escalate. (alcohol doesn't help folks!) People tend to regress in response to stress and old patterns -- early dynamics are played out -- in full force. The image of two tarantulas in a jar comes to mind.
It's a new day.
Kim Seelbrede is a former Miss USA and a licensed New York City Psychotherapist, Coach and EMDR Therapist who specializes in an integrative approach to therapy and coaching, working with adults, adolescents and couples. She has a special interest in celebrity mental health and enjoys working with gifted and talented individuals who struggle with self-doubt, perfectionism and performance difficulties . Her intuitive gifts, compassion and eclectic training enables her to work with a range of personal and situational difficulties. Kimberly is trained to collaborate with her clients in developing enhanced self-awareness, personal insight and adaptive coping skills to address many concerns including: relationship and interpersonal difficulties, anxiety, depression, panic disorder, OCD, personality disorders, self-esteem, self-harm, shame, ADD, ADHD, adolescent challenges, family of origin issues, underachievement, identity and sexuality concerns, addictions, compulsions, eating disorders, PTSD/trauma, transitions, health concerns and stress management. Integrative therapy sessions can address concerns related to spirituality, life-purpose, work-life balance as well as providing meditation and mindfulness support. She conducts couples intensive workshops, groups and consults with organizations on stress reduction and mindfulness. Please email her to arrange a consultation in her Manhattan office or online via Skype.
Kim completed her graduate studies at New York University and has advanced post-graduate psychotherapy training from The William Alanson White Institute of Psychiatry, Psychoanalysis & Psychology in Eating Disorders, Compulsions and Addictions. Additionally, she has received advanced EMDRIA-approved EMDR training as well as specialized training in Brainspotting, Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and DBT Therapy. In her work with couples, she uses Solution-Focused Therapy, Non-Violent Communication (NVC) and applies the work of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and her training with The Gottman Institute. She Is a registered yoga therapist (200 + 500 RYT), integrative therapist and Reiki practitioner trained with the Urban Zen Foundation.
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