#shrinkthinks - Worry, Anxiety And The Power Of Magical Thinking

Why do you worry so much? Because you believe that your worry, which leads to more anxiety symptoms and distress, keeps you safe. If you worry enough, and keep worrying, then maybe, you can stop it from happening. You have an odd relationship with your worry and chronic anxiety. It may keep you up at night, but in your bones, you also believe that it helps you avoid bad things. So in a way, your worry works for you. You believe that it prevents problems or accidents, it prepares you for the worst and you also believe that you may find some solutions in your chronic worry. 

Wrong, it's faulty thinking at work here. Worrying doesn't really help and worrying doesn't actually keep bad things from happening in your life. Analogy: sitting outside your home on the porch with a fire extinguisher doesn't keep your house from burning down when there's no fire. But you already know this. Worry can be a habit and an attempt to control things. Worry wears you down.

Sometimes uncomfortable, negative and bad things actually do happen. At that point, it's time to find a solution. So, how do you move from worry to problem-solving and finding good solutions? 


Kimberly Seelbrede, LCSW is a licensed Psychotherapist, EMDR Therapist and Personal Coach with a private practice in New York City. As a clinician who is passionate about the interplay between mind and body, she practices mind-body psychotherapy, providing holistic counseling and coaching for her clients. Her counseling modalities include: psychoanalytic psychotherapy EMDR therapy, CBT, DBT, mindfulness, crisis counseling and coaching with expertise in anxiety, depression, pain and chronic disease management, eating disorders (anorexia, binge eating, bulimia), addictions, alcoholism, trauma resolution, relationship + marital difficulties, women's issues (postpartum depression, new parent, divorce, separation, hormone imbalance), performance blocks, self-defeating behaviors, loss, grief, loneliness, self-esteem issues, post-rehab support and sexual problems. Via Skype, Kim Seelbrede provides life coaching, executive, personal and career coaching. Kim Seelbrede works with celebrities and high-profile individuals as well as high-level entrepreneurs and Fortune 500 executives around the world including London, Hong Kong, New York, Los Angeles, San Francisco, Boston, Connecticut and Washington. Her professional personal and executive coaching services are tailored to each clients individual needs and targets concerns such as feeling stagnate and stuck, self-assertion, self-sabotage, substance abuse, pain management, chronic illness, work/life balance, performance problems, communication challenges, anxiety and stress management/reduction.

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