#lovenotes - Gifts From The Universe

No, you can't always get what you want...

But if you try sometime, you just might find

You get what you need!

~Rolling Stones

What you want and what you actually need are two very different things. Something to consider when life feels unfair, people are a struggle and it's just plain hard. It's easy to fall into victim mode, right? And yes, some have tougher lives and life lessons than others, which always leaves us wondering why that is. But what if many or all of these so called obstacles or challenges are placed before us to help us grow and learn -- a gift, if you will. When I consider the difficult people in my own life -- the things that get triggered in me, the triggers I didn't know existed, the dark parts that get activated in response, as an example, I always find that I learn something important about myself. What I choose to do with that lesson is a different matter. Oh the messiness of life -- the love, the hate, the range between the two, so much confusion, conflict and ambivalence -- it's no wonder it feels safer to hide and protect yourself, rather than face vulnerability, pain and uncertainty.

Kimberly Seelbrede, LCSW is a licensed Psychotherapist, EMDR Therapist and Personal Coach with a private practice in New York City. As a clinician who is passionate about the interplay between mind and body, she practices mind-body psychotherapy, providing holistic counseling and coaching for her clients. Her counseling modalities include: psychoanalytic psychotherapy EMDR therapy, CBT, DBT, mindfulness, crisis counseling and coaching with expertise in anxiety, depression, pain and chronic disease management, eating disorders (anorexia, binge eating, bulimia), addictions, alcoholism, trauma resolution, relationship + marital difficulties, women's issues (postpartum depression, new parent, divorce, separation, hormone imbalance), performance blocks, self-defeating behaviors, loss, grief, loneliness, self-esteem issues, post-rehab support and sexual problems. Via Skype, Kim Seelbrede provides life coaching, executive, personal and career coaching. Kim Seelbrede works with celebrities and high-profile individuals as well as high-level entrepreneurs and Fortune 500 executives around the world including London, Hong Kong, New York, Los Angeles, San Francisco, Boston, Connecticut and Washington. Her professional personal and executive coaching services are tailored to each clients individual needs and targets concerns such as feeling stagnate and stuck, self-assertion, self-sabotage, substance abuse, pain management, chronic illness, work/life balance, performance problems, communication challenges, anxiety and stress management/reduction.

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Beauty Queen: A Memoir to be released late 2016