Professional Burnout

YOUR BODY KNOWs HOW TO HEAL

Professional burnout is a common presenting complaint and a reason many successful, hardworking and high-achieving individuals seek professional coaching. They frequently initially experience apathy, exhaustion or a sense of overwhelm before more serious problems surface. There are also many reasons one might experience burnout, not limited to the pressure to succeed or achieve, financial demands or a competitive personality. The important thing is to learn to identify and recognize when you need help so that you can restore well-being and create a healthier work and life balance. 

WHAT FOLLOWS ARE SOME CLASSIC SIGNS OF PROFESSIONAL BURNOUT:

  • Apathy and detachment

  • Dread and anxiety 

  • Physical and emotional exhaustion

  • Chronic fatigue

  • Changes in appetite

  • Increase in substance use or abuse

  • Insomnia and sleep issues

  • Physical or somatic complains such as: palpitations, panic attacks, headaches, gastrointestinal complaints, dizziness

  • Impaired immune functioning and frequent illness

  • Impaired attention, concentration and forgetfulness

  • Relationship issues

  • Anger, tension and irritability

  • Acting out

  • Feeling less effective

  • Feeling trapped or "stuck"

  • Sadness, isolation, pessimism, hopelessness, depression

  • Lack of productivity and decreased performance

Wellness Coaching, Self-Care + Autoimmune Support

WELLNESS COACHING + SELF-CARE PRACTICES

Many suffer from chronic pain, somatic symptoms and health issues that may be rooted in energetic blocks and neglected emotional suffering. We know that trauma at all levels tends to remain "stuck" in the brain, nervous system and body as unprocessed feelings, emotions and experiences. This often gets expressed as body symptoms such as anxiety, depression, disease and chronic pain. A special interest of mine is to provide individualized Wellness Coaching with the goal of helping and supporting clients to identify feelings and emotions as well as understand how the body speaks loudly in an effort to express the trauma. Clients can overcome blocks to optimal health as well as understand self-destructive habits that have become life-altering obstacles to wellbeing. I view wellbeing as an opportunity to heal from the inside out -- this means addressing the root cause of disease and suffering, and not just attending to symptoms. Working with a wellness model, together we will identify areas of need, and I will support you through the healing journey

Self-care is not being selfish or indulgent, it is the ability to care for one's own emotional needs, set boundaries with people, manage anxiety, anger, sadness and other feelings or emotions and attend to one's more complex needs. This can happen even when other people's demands or actions make this a challenge. Society as well as friends, family and employers often have expectations of us; we subjugate our own needs in an attempt to please and care for others. In the mental health field, Individuals with low self-esteem, depression, anxiety, dependency issues and codependent individuals fail to care for themselves, often until it's too late and they become sick. Some examples of chronic health conditions that benefit from self-care support and advocacy are the following: Fibromyalgia, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome or CFS, arthritis, MS, Lupus, asthma, obesity, hypertension, diabetes, Lyme disease, autoimmune thyroid disorders (Hashimoto's & Graves), depression, IBS and diseases of aging as a few examples. Conventional medicine rarely addresses the root causes of many of these chronic conditions, and treats only the symptoms. A whole-body approach gives clients the choice to make radical lifestyle changes that may actually cure these common diseases or at least, greatly reduce symptoms and suffering. The failure to care for oneself due to wanting to please or care for others, such as in a codependent relationship, or in the case of overly demanding family members, can indicate some difficulty setting boundaries, identity and self-image. Kim Seelbrede, LCSW, RYT (200 + 500) trained with Donna Karan's groundbreaking Urban Zen Integrative Therapy Program with a focus on five modalities: restorative yoga therapy, essential oils, Reiki, nutrition and contemplative care. She learned the techniques of grounding, relaxation, mindfulness, present-focused meditation and restoration. To learn more about the Urban Zen Integrative Therapy training initiative or to find a class use this link.

As a professionally trained addiction and eating disorder psychotherapist and specialist, I can help clients navigate the challenges they face post-rehab and at any phase of recovery. Recovery coaching can help individuals identify, manage and remove the many environmental and personal obstacles that interfere with successful recovery. *Note* I am not in recovery personally but have training in the area of addiction and recovery services. I can refer you to a clinician who is in recovery if this is important to you. 

BECAUSE IT'S HARD TO DO IT ALONE, HOW DOES A RECOVERY COACH HELP?

  • Maintaining motivation and staying focused on personal goals 

  • Support for creating healthy and safe boundaries for self and others

  • Support for maintaining the energy, passion and desire for healthy relationships

  • Help for engaging in activities and relationships that replace the desire to use drugs or engage in harmful behaviors 

  • Self-empowerment and learning to ask for help as needed

  • Identifying needs and learning to connect to inner guidance

  • Creating a self-care practices that nourishes mind and body

  • Support in identifying and managing cravings and triggers

  • Learning to "own" actions and take responsibility in relationships and with behaviors

  • Celebrating important gains and achievements

  • Feeling empowered to make healthy choices

  • Support with structure, activities, exercise, nutrition, socializing and sleep hygiene

  • Maintaining hope and staying positive during the recovery process

  • Help with learning to be present, tolerate discomfort and live in the present moment

  • Create a practice of awareness, acceptance, gratitude, self-compassion and change 


About Kim Seelbrede, MSW, LCSW

So why would a traditionally-trained psychotherapist coach clients in addition to providing psychotherapy? Because many prefer the coaching model of goal-attainment and solutions, and I enjoy helping clients get results fast! That said, life coaching can only be effective when unconscious obstacles, patterns and dynamics are uncovered so that clients have real freedom to move forward and less potential for regressing. Without guided insight into the many ways that we recreate familiar dynamics, your coaching results with the best coaches will end up failing. Life coaching with a therapist can shine the light on any obstacles that may be blocking progress and leverage client strengths to build a life more aligned with one's true nature and vision. I give clients the tools and tricks as well as a map of how to reach those often elusive goals. I have a special interest in coaching and working with clients who have health challenges such as autoimmune disorders or other chronic conditions and are motivated to make the necessary lifestyle changes to experience enhanced well-being. I received professional coaching training from The Institute For Life Coaching.

Using creative, effective coaching techniques and blending evidenced-based therapies such as CBT and a depth-focused process (working with the unconscious) to help clients become effective and powerful in their lives and live in the “here and now” not recreating the past. Depth-focused coaching involves an intelligent fusion of coaching, depth psychology, EMDR and mind-body wisdom and the creative integration of these elements to support client growth and transformation. Past and current clients include CEOs, top athletes, entertainers, celebrities, writers, creatives, speakers, salespeople, managers, executives, entrepreneurs, doctors, lawyers, academics, parents and adolescents.

A former Miss USA and a licensed New York City Psychotherapist, Coach and EMDR Therapist I specialize in an integrative approach to therapy and coaching, working with adults, adolescents and couples. I have a special interest in celebrity mental health and enjoy working with gifted and talented individuals who struggle with self-doubt, perfectionism and performance difficulties. My intuitive nature, compassion and eclectic training enables me to work with a range of personal and situational difficulties. Working one-on-one, I collaborate with my clients helping them develop enhanced self-awareness, personal insight and adaptive coping skills to address many concerns, including: relationship and interpersonal difficulties, anxiety, depression, panic disorder, OCD, doubt, guilt, shame, personality disorders, self-esteem, self-harm, ADD/ADHD, adolescent challenges, family of origin issues, underachievement, identity and sexuality concerns, addictions, compulsions, eating disorders, PTSD/trauma, transitions, health concerns and stress management. Sessions can address concerns related to spirituality, life-purpose, work-life balance as well as providing meditation and mindfulness support.

Coaching FAQ’s

THE INTERNATIONAL COACH FEDERATION (ICF) REPORTED THAT INDIVIDUALS EXPERIENCE THE FOLLOWING OUTCOMES AS A RESULT OF WORKING WITH A  LIFE COACH:

  • Increased self-awareness (67%)

  • Enhanced ability to manage stress (57%)

  • Better goal setting (62%)

  • Self-discovery (53%)

  • More balanced life (60%)

  • Increased self-confidence (52%)

WHAT IS THE RATE OF RETURN WHEN YOU HIRE A LIFE COACH?  

Your Return on Investment (ROI) is directly correlated to the amount of dedication you demonstrate toward your growth and development. You get what you give.

LIFE COACHING IS A GOOD FIT FOR YOU IF YOU ARE:

  • A motivated and insightful person who is interested in self reflection and personal growth

  • Able to get out of your own way and allow for the "good" and "positive"

  • Someone with realistic goals and the desire to meet them

  • A person who values commitment and integrity

  • An individual who is able to make changes

  • Someone who has the capacity for healthy work, personal, and romantic relationships

  • Smart and not afraid of hard work

Therapy + Healing Philosophy

As an integrative psychotherapist working in-person or online via teletherapy, I'm delighted to offer a unique approach to emotional health and healing. My goal is to blend contemporary psychological practices, intuitive guidance and the wisdom of the ancient healing arts. The heart and soul of my approach is to help clients develop insight, self-awareness, self-acceptance, authenticity, self integration, respect for one's body, embodiment, healthy boundaries and self-care practices.

Clinical Expertise

 PSYCHOTHERAPY, COACHING + CONSULTATION CONCERNS

  • Depression and mood disorders

  • Anxiety, OCD and compulsive disorders

  • Eating disorders, emotional eating and body image issues

  • Feeing “not enough,” “undeserving” or “unworthy”

  • Women’s issues, coaching and mentoring

  • Sexual and relationship issues for individuals and couples, sex therapy

  • Celebrity, high-profile, gifted and talented individuals

  • Grief, loss and bereavement

  • Adolescents problems (behavioral, emotional, familial, academic challenges)

  • ADD/ADHD

  • Addictions / drug addiction / process addictions / substance abuse / behavioral disorders / alcoholism 

  • Adult survivors of abuse and alcoholism

  • Childhood, developmental trauma resolution of traumatic events, complex PTSD

  • Self-sabotage and self-defeating behaviors, self-harm issues

  • Self-esteem issues, negative self-concept

  • Performance blocks using EMDR therapy

  • Surviving and managing relationships with borderline or narcissistic individuals / partners

  • Men’s issues 

  • Environmental stressors and crisis therapy

  • Phase of life issues, life transitions

  • Work, creativity and career issues

  • Life purpose, existential and spiritual growth

Professional Services

  • Online therapy via telephone, Skype or a HIPPA compliant service

  • Individual Adult Psychotherapy

  • Marriage / couples / relationship problems

  • Psychological consultations and behavioral health concerns

  • Coaching, executives, optimal + peak performance

  • Weekend intensive workshops for couples

  • Coordination of services with school, medical practitioners, legal counsel, etc

  • Addiction evaluations and assessments, process addictions, substance abuse and alcohol misuse

  • Consultation and evaluation for addictions and eating disorders, potential in-patient residential treatment

  • Parent and new parent education and coaching

  • Clinical supervision for obtaining licensure or creating an integrative psychotherapy practice

  • Private practice building business and consulting

  • Presentations and workshops

  • Mindfulness, meditation and stress management coaching and instruction

  • Recovery support for individuals including their families

  • Self-care support and wellness coaching

  • Referrals to medical and allied professionals in New York City and beyond

An Eclectic Therapy Approach

  • Psychodynamic / psychoanalytic psychotherapy / interpersonal psychotherapy

  • Humanistic approaches

  • Attachment-based therapy

  • Couples counseling / Gottman / emotionally focused therapy

  • Mindfulness / meditation support

  • EMDR therapy

  • Focusing techniques

  • Hypnosis

  • Brainspotting for attachment and trauma resolution

  • Crisis counseling

  • Short-term and goal-oriented therapy

  • Cognitive therapy for depression

  • CBT

  • DBT Skills

ONLINE THERAPY FOR NEW YORK CITY, MANHATTAN, NEW YORK STATE + METROPOLITAN AREA

I offer online therapy, coaching and psychological consultations to high-functioning clients using video therapy on the internet. Online therapy allows you the comfort, convenience and flexibility of receiving high-quality therapy with an experienced therapist from your home, office or hotel through encrypted, secure video conferencing. Many find online therapy to be just as effective as psychotherapy sessions conducted in-person. Online therapy delivers services to clients who may be unable to seek face-to-face mental health services due to health or physical limitations, location, travel, work schedule, parenting and other circumstances. The hassle of losing time because of commuting, travel and scheduling problems can be reduced with video or phone sessions. Online therapy is not appropriate for everyone especially for those struggling with psychotic symptoms, severe depression, bipolar disorder, certain addictions or a medical or mental health diagnosis that requires hospitalization.

RELATIONSHIP COUNSELING, COUPLES THERAPY + SEX THERAPY IN-PERSON OR VIA ONLINE VIDEO COUNSELING

In my therapy practice with couples in New York City I’ve successfully helped couples heal and mend the wounds of emotional and physical infidelity. I enjoy working with partners who desire a healthier and more satisfying relationship and those who crave more passion, exploration, novelty, mystery, surprise and desire. I work with high-functioning couples who would like to enhance their relationship and reestablish intimacy and connection. I also work with individuals at various stages of relationships including: newly-formed relationships, couples seeking pre-marital counseling, new parents seeking support, those considering separation or divorce and the newly single and ready to date. I draw from attachment-based theory, helping couples understand their own attachment style as well as that of their partner. Clients can learn to communicate their needs and "hear" the needs of their partner, as well as develop a shared vision or goals, learn acceptance and compassion for self and the other, heal trust issues and infidelity and develop new relationship and communication skills. Clients are also guided to identify and de-escalate when they experience triggers, address sex and intimacy concerns and understand how the past and family of origin issues may be impacting the relationship in the present. I am a sex positive therapist which means that I am aware of and accepting of a range of consensual sexual expression and lifestyle practices. This may include various forms of kinks, fetishes, and polyamory without judgment.

ONLINE VIDEO/PHONE CONSULTATIONS, REFERRALS, SECOND OPINIONS, PSYCHOLOGICAL CONSULTATIONS

I provide psychological consultation sessions that are time-limited and problem or goal-focused. Some individuals and families consult with a mental health professional for educational purposes, a clinical assessment or diagnosis, a second opinion, help with a specific personal or life challenge, support for a difficult transition or crisis and to obtain resources to other collateral support such as psychiatrists or treatment facilities and rehabs for addictions and eating disorders. Clinical consultations allow a client, parent or family member to explore concerns, problem-solve with a professional and make decisions or changes in their lives that move them forward when they feel unsupported or "stuck." I am delighted to share my trusted resources to complementary, alternative and conventional medical referrals in New York City and beyond. Consultations are not psychotherapy and can be done long distance using an online service such as Skype, Zoom, FaceTime, Simple Practice or via telephone sessions. I provide professional supervision consultation for new therapists seeking licensing and those with existing practices who are interested in blending integrative therapies into their private practice or building a private practice.

COACHING AND THERAPY FOR WOMEN’S ISSUES

In therapy sessions, women commonly express feeling overwhelmed and depleted, or a common theme of feeling “less than” or “not enough.” Women have harsh inner dialogues, and an internalized voice that is often pervasive and unforgiving. Women are invalidated throughout development with many messages stemming from society and culture with a focus on outward appearance. Social media has created an even more toxic environment for women. Women frequently feel shamed for having needs and suppress even the most basic of needs. Rarely do women have time to pursue creative passions and endeavors that replenish them. Women are deserving of healthy and fulfilling relationships, including the primary relationship with yourself. You also deserve to embody your sexuality and enjoy passionate pursuits. Women-specific counseling and mentoring offers a safe space for you to talk about your real needs and all the places that cause you pain and suffering. Helping you connect to your “true self” does not have to feel threatening to other parts of your life. It can enhance other aspects such as parenting and your relationships. It can also give you the support and courage to release all the areas that no longer serve you. Intimacy and vulnerability can be accessed in ways that can be transformative for your life and can generalize to your friendships and romance. I provide online video counseling or online therapy via a HIPPA-compliant platform for women who would like to explore enhancing work/life balance as well as reclaiming “self” and sexuality. We can also meet in-person if that works better for you.

WOMEN’S MENTORING ONLINE SESSIONS

  • Relationship dissatisfaction, recovering from infidelity and betrayal, blocks to intimacy and trust, healing from break-ups or divorce, divorce transition, dating again

  • Feeling “not enough” or “unworthy of love”

  • Fear of abandonment in relationships, losing “self” in relationships and boundary problems

  • Repeating patterns such as finding “unavailable” partners, co-dependency

  • Body image issues and concerns, dissociation

  • Difficulties communicating needs and desires

  • Overcoming loss, unresolved grief

  • Trauma resolution

  • Aging, transitions

  • Owning shadow aspects of yourself

  • Repressed anger and rage

  • Role and identity, career concerns

  • PCOS, fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue, autoimmune disorders, thyroid disorders, nutrition deficits that impact mood, hormonal struggles, weight concerns

  • Post-menopause, perimenopause, post-pregnancy, hormone imbalance

  • Sexual problems, inability to orgasm, pain during sex, sex drive concerns, sexual compulsivity, sexual fear and aversion, shame related to sexuality, recovering from negative experiences, reclaiming sexuality after abuse, recovering from childhood sexual abuse, assault, violence, harassment, religious and cultural concerns, gender non-conforming, queer, transgender, LGBTQ+, kink, fetish, BDSM, sexual orientation, bisexuality, alternate lifestyle, poly lifestyle, open relationships

COACHING AND THERAPY FOR MEN’S ISSUES

Men face their share of stress and pressure in today’s society. The early messages for men and boys is to “shut down” and not express emotions, and when they do, their authentic feelings are often met with reactions that induce shame. This leads to the suppression of normal and healthy feelings and emotions, and a reliance on coping skills that can be detrimental to masculine development, such as externalizing (acting out) and eventually, serious health problems. Men frequently lack the healthy integration of important parts of the “self,” they minimize feelings and emotions, fearing that they may appear weak. Many men have pressure to provide for their family and be “successful” producers in society, this contributes to fear, paralysis, stress and overwhelm. They choose work that may be financially rewarding but less so on a personal level of satisfaction. Not all women understand the unique pressures that men face as a result of society and cultural conditioning, leading to disconnection and alienation of “self.” As men age, they also experience sexual concerns that impact intimacy and their relationships with their partners. Working with a therapist can help men who have been conditioned to “shut down” and begin to feel less shame and guilt about embodying their “true” selves and honoring needs that deserve to be expressed and met with acceptance and support.

PSYCHOTHERAPY FOR ADOLESCENTS + ADULTS

In order to determine if psychotherapy is right for you, a consultation in-person or online can help us explore how best to work together, either short-term or long-term. After your initial assessment, I will give you my opinion, and together, we can discuss your needs and create a treatment plan to move forward. We will also consider the duration of treatment and the approach or combination that will serve your goals. I have expertise in anxiety and mood disorders, women’s issues, addictions, compulsions, eating disorders, relationship problems, sexuality, identity concerns, self-defeating patterns and self-sabotage, lack of purpose, goal setting, spirituality, family of origin issues, trauma/PTSD, attachment deficits, self-esteem, transitions, loss, wellness coaching and an integrative therapy approach that addresses chronic pain and medical challenges.

PERSONAL TRANSFORMATION COACHING, PEAK PERFORMANCE + PROFESSIONAL HIGH-PROFILE CLIENT COACHING NYC + WORLDWIDE

Coaching is not therapy. Coaching clients are goal-oriented individuals who seek results in their lives. Hiring a transformation coach who is skilled to help uncover obstacles, as well as guide and support you in your journey is a powerful resource. Having help and guidance as you practice new behaviors can be incredibly supportive. Some individuals seek an expert "strategist" to guide efforts towards growth and change. Successful coaching unearths the stubborn and often unconscious dynamics that keep people anchored in their present reality, without addressing the underlying drive and dynamics, coaching fails. Partnering with a skilled life coach can be encouraging and empowering, and can help clients navigate change and the challenging aspects of their lives. Whether it’s taking control of one's health, losing weight, career issues, focusing on goal-attainment, repairing a relationship, getting "unstuck" or transitioning to a new chapter in life, coaching can provide the needed inspiration and support one desires. Working with a licensed trained psychotherapist can yield exceptional results. I regularly offer EMDR for blocks and peak-performance enhancement, mindfulness, meditation techniques, solution-focused strategies or cognitive and behavior techniques to my clients, combined with coaching strategies to help "stuck" clients move forward. I often use a model of depth-focused coaching to help clients dig a little deeper into the unconscious to facilitate the removal of blocks and patterns.

THERAPY FOR DEPRESSION

Clinical depression is a complicated condition that can be treated with supportive and interpersonal psychotherapy, medication and a collaborative approach to identify the biological and psychosocial factors that may have contributed to a patient's depressive symptoms. Some types of depression are: major depression, dysthymia, postpartum depression, premenstrual, seasonal affective disorder, atypical, situational and bipolar. Depression can be mild and show up with seasonal changes and it can be debilitating and interfere with activities of daily living, life skills, relationships, employment, hope and may also include the desire to end one’s life. Depression treatment is generally supportive in nature, and may require help with daily structure and coping skills and often requires working with other mental health professionals who are able to prescribe antidepressant treatment. Interpersonal psychotherapy, CBT and EMDR therapy can be effective treatments for depressed patients as can antidepressant use, light therapy, vitamin D, amino acids, supplements and other complementary therapies to discuss with your doctor. 

THERAPY FOR ANXIETY

Anxiety symptoms bring many into therapy for the first time. They include: generalized anxiety disorder, panic disorder, agoraphobia, social anxiety, separation anxiety, phobias, obsessive compulsive disorder and post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Not all clients experience anxiety in the same way. For some, anxiety is a distress that presents in a specific situation such as performance, public speaking or test-taking. For others, anxiety may be experienced as chronic, and ranging from mild to debilitating, including uncomfortable physical symptoms. Anxiety sufferers are best helped by understanding emotional conflicts, environmental and genetic factors with treatment that may include talk therapy, CBT, stress reduction techniques, Somatic Experiencing (SE) and EMDR Therapy to target early trauma, memories and present-day distress.

THERAPY FOR LOSS + BEREAVEMENT, TRANSITIONS

Losing something or someone is difficult and complicated for many reasons. Loss can include a loved-one, pet, health, job, lifestyle, home, identity, status, and more. Loss, especially when significant to the individual, requires mourning and grieving that loss, experiencing the associated feelings, and eventually, moving forward. Psychotherapy can give the individual a safe place to grieve and feel the sadness. The healing process is different for everyone as is the length of time required to heal.

THERAPY FOR CRISIS MANAGEMENT

Crisis counseling and management is intended to be brief, It is not the same as ongoing psychotherapy. Providing support for individuals, couples or families using crisis intervention therapy is focused on minimizing the stress of the event, if possible, providing emotional support and enhancing immediate coping skills. Crisis counseling involves careful assessment of the situation, planning, strategizing, treatment and focusing on the client’s immediate situation, such as needs and safety. Clients who seek counseling for a personal or professional crisis may need a more robust form of support, including extra sessions and extended time until the situation is resolved or they are feeling more resilient and better able to cope without the help of a mental health professional, psychotherapist or psychologist. 

THERAPY FOR ADDICTIONS + COMPULSIONS

I view addictive behaviors as symptoms of other underlying, unresolved issues and have developed a special interest in recovery support as well as having received specialized training in this area. Addictions such as substance abuse and process addictions are complex problems and can be successfully treated when other co-occurring difficulties are addressed, such as depression, panic disorder, ADD, Aspergers and personality disorders such as Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Many may have more than two conditions that contribute to maladaptive coping responses. Some common addictions include: alcohol, drugs, gambling, food, shopping, video games, the internet, sex, pornography and work. Successful treatment for addictive behaviors is an integrative approach that may include some combination of psychotherapy and behavior treatments. EMDR therapy using addiction protocols, psychodynamic psychotherapy and dialectical behavior therapy or DBT skills are also very effective forms of treatment. 

THERAPY FOR TRAUMA TREATMENT AND PTSD

Early trauma and chronic, developmental and complex traumas that have impacted a patient's development and attachment relationships are the most difficult to heal. Psychotherapy can help validate the patient's experience, work through any feelings of shame and confusion that may have been internalized, process the traumatic experience or event and help them understand how their current life is impacted by traumatic experiences. Psychotherapy can help individuals identify triggers in daily experiences that creates symptoms and contributes to familiar self-defeating patterns and dynamics. While talk therapy can be a good place to begin for some trauma patients, EMDR, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy and Somatic Experiencing are excellent treatment options to provide symptomatic relief and truly heal from trauma.

LOSS + BEREAVEMENT THERAPY

Losing something or someone is difficult and complicated for many reasons. Loss can include a loved-one, pet, health,  job, lifestyle, home, identity, status, and more. Loss, especially when significant to the individual, requires mourning and grieving that loss, experiencing the associated feelings, and eventually, moving forward. Psychotherapy can give the individual a safe place to grieve and feel the sadness. The healing process is different for everyone as is the length of time required to heal. 

URBAN ZEN INTEGRATIVE THERAPY SESSIONS UZIT

My interest in mind-body techniques and complementary medicine has allowed me to journey to some amazing places including workshops and training opportunities with experts in the field of integrative and functional medicine. Using my training with the Urban Zen Foundation and my yoga therapy training (RYT 200 + 500 hours), I help clients address anxiety insomnia, stress, trauma and chronic illness using a combination of guided imagery, breathing techniques, body scans, meditation and mindfulness. I've studied both aromatherapy and Reiki. Using the brilliance of neuroplasticity, western psychological theory, and the power of cutting-edge nutrition, yoga therapy, chakra work and other somatic psychotherapies, I truly enjoy helping clients who are open to these techniques heal on many levels. Together we can decide what might work best for your particular needs. Some examples of integrative therapy include: mindfulness training, lifestyle recommendations (nutrition, meditation, exercise, yoga and sleep), boundary work, shadow work, creative play, journaling, somatic therapy and more. 

Therapy Modalities 

PSYCHODYNAMIC PSYCHOTHERAPY

Psychodynamic psychotherapy is an evidence-based and active therapy that has a long history and tradition used in both short and long-term treatment. Psychodynamic sessions include the process of increasing self-awareness, encouraging self-expression, understanding conflicts, developing insight into the behaviors of self and other, unearthing unconscious content that can interfere with functioning and understanding patterns and dynamics that may have origins in the past but are played out in the "here and now." This form of therapy uses the relationship between patient and therapist to heal. The interpersonal relationship tends to be the focus of sessions as an active example of other relationships in the patient's life, so that patterns and distress can be "worked through" and not repeated outside of treatment.

EMDR THERAPY, BRAINSPOTTING + SOMATIC EXPERIENCING TECHNIQUES

As an EMDRIA-approved, level I + II trained EMDR therapist, I have enjoyed great success with clients using EMDR therapy for a variety of chronic, longstanding difficulties as well as recent traumatic incidents. I enjoy using EMDR therapy because it works, and can be a stand-alone treatment or integrated into ongoing talk therapy sessions to speed the healing process. I provide trauma resolution for PTSD symptoms, and healing for attachment deficits, developmental traumas, medical trauma and chronic physical and emotional abuse. Additionally, EMDR is an effective therapy for anxiety, obsessions, phobias, compulsions, panic attacks, depression, self-esteem, eating disorders, addictions and more. For individuals with anxiety, emotion regulation problems and in addiction recovery, elements of EMDR therapy can help clients develop and strengthen self-soothing inner resources. A combination of EMDR and coaching is an effective treatment combination for sports and peak performance enhancement and creative and performance blocks and can be seamlessly integrated into coaching sessions with executives and high-profile, performance-oriented clients. Brainspotting, another technique developed by David Grand, PhD, combined with EMDR psychotherapy is a technique I use to address attachment issues, unresolved trauma, pre-verbal trauma and performance problems. EMDR is an evidence-based treatment that targets many symptoms and conditions including trauma, negative memories, phobias, fears, anxiety, addictions, compulsions and performance difficulties. Originally used to treat Veterans, EMDR therapy is now one of the most efficient and effective trauma/symptom treatment methods that allows clients to fully heal from their psychological wounds. EMDR can successfully be integrated into psychotherapy sessions. Many clients find EMDR to be more effective than other forms of therapy including CBT and traditional “talk therapy.” EMDR is especially helpful with performance and creative blocks. 

COGNITIVE BEHAVIORAL THERAPY (CBT)

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy focuses on examining and changing maladaptive thoughts and behaviors. CBT tends to be a short-term approach that is highly-effective for many with empirically-tested techniques supporting an increase in skills and a change in behaviors. CBT is an effective solution for a variety of concerns including anxiety, depression and addictions/substance abuse.

DIALECTICAL BEHAVIOR THERAPY (DBT)

DBT was originally developed for the treatment of Borderline Personality Disorder. With time, DBT skills and techniques have been found to be helpful for individuals who struggle in many areas of life including substance abuse and addictions. DBT treatment combines ideas of awareness, acceptance and change from mindfulness with a range of psychological theories. Because DBT skills are practical and can be generalized into many areas of life, DBT can be successfully integrated into treatment plans and used in a variety of treatment settings. DBT uses mindfulness and other skills to help increase emotion regulation, distress tolerance and interpersonal effectiveness with the goal of helping patient's cope, de-escalate, and self-regulate. 

FOCUSING-ORIENTED THERAPY

Developed in the 1970s by psychologist Dr. Eugene Gendlin at the University of Chicago, Focusing-Oriented Therapy is non-directive as the therapist guides the client to connect to the "felt sense" which then allows the client to explore troubling emotions and feelings, helping them turn inward and find the answers needed to heal. Focusing can help clients access their own inner wisdom and strength by inviting the non-judgmental attention to body sensations, inner "knowing," thoughts, feelings and imagery which may come in the form of words or pre-verbal and non-verbal experiences. Experiences and traumas reside in the body and long for attention even when they have not been consciously thought or verbalized. Focusing-Oriented Therapy can support one's own natural healing while increasing insight and awareness, helping clients gain a broader perspective of current and historical circumstances that have created pain, suffering and blockages. This powerful technique can reduce anxiety and depression, resolve individual and collective traumas, heal feelings of loss and neglect, increase performance skills, improve emotional regulation, increase relaxation, support immune function, support clients with medical and pain issues, support decision-making and more. It is this locating of the felt sense and its shift that causes true psychological change, empowerment, the restoration of self and enhanced well-being. Focusing-oriented therapy can be conducted using online therapy and video sessions.

MINDFULNESS THERAPY

Mindfulness is the practice of moment-to-moment awareness of feelings, thoughts and bodily sensations as well as an awareness of the environment and one's surroundings. Mindfulness, as a philosophy, has more recently become a widely-used and helpful practice in the fields of psychology and psychotherapy. Additionally, mindfulness is an empirically-validated practice with data that supports its efficacy and application in a range of clinical and non-clinical settings. A mindfulness practice includes the observation of feelings, emotions and sensations, a non-judgmental presence and the awareness and acceptance of the present moment. 

RECOVERY SUPPORT, AFTERCARE + CONSULTATIONS FOR FAMILY MEMBERS

Individuals just released from addiction or eating disorder inpatient treatment can benefit from supportive care following rehab stays. This may take the form of individual psychotherapy, EMDR trauma treatment, and when helpful, family therapy. Getting a loved-one into treatment and finding the right program requires help, support and resources. Additionally, family members experience strong emotions related to the experience of having a family member who is addicted and at-risk. Consulting with a mental health professional can help individuals and family members make better decisions Recovery support can help clients and family members with the following concerns:

  • Build on the useful tools learned during rehab as maintenance care

  • Maintaining motivation and staying focused on personal goals 

  • Support for creating healthy and safe boundaries for self and others, identifying needs, communicating effectively, learning to ask for help, and self-empowerment

  • Repairing relationships and gaining support for maintaining the energy, passion and desire for healthy relationships

  • Help with engaging in activities and relationships that replace the desire to use drugs or engage in harmful behaviors 

  • Creating a self-care practice that nourishes mind and body, maintaining support and positivity

  • Learn to identify cravings and triggers

  • Celebrate important gains, achievements and learn to make healthier choices

  • Support with structure, activities, exercise, nutrition, socializing and sleep hygiene

  • Help with learning to be present, tolerate discomfort and live in the present moment

Therapy FAQ’s

WHAT HAPPENS IN THERAPY AND COUNSELING SESSIONS?

Even though you may have good friends and family members to talk with, a psychotherapist or psychologist with professional training is able to see things from a different lens and even challenge and support you in ways that the people in your life cannot. Therapy helps people gain relief from unpleasant feelings and thoughts, create more fulfilling and meaningful relationships, and gain more pleasure and control in their lives. Effective psychotherapy and counseling helps clients get to the root of their difficulties and learn ways to become more self-aware, cope with difficult emotions, improve mood, gain control, feel connected to others, develop the skills to handle future problems, and live more fulfilling and satisfying lives. Therapists can provide support, practical problem-solving skills, and enhanced coping strategies for many life challenges and issues. Many people also find that counselors or psychotherapists can help with career concerns, managing personal growth, professional relationships, family concerns, marriage issues, parenting challenges, developing healthier habits, connecting to the body, understanding thoughts, feelings and emotions, balancing the stress of daily life and goal-setting.

High-achieving, successful individuals often experience emptiness, unhappiness, disappointment, loneliness, stress, anxiety and interpersonal problems. These concerns can lead to less than desirable coping solutions such as addictions, alcohol and drug abuse, eating problems and sleep deficits.. Therapists can provide a fresh perspective on a difficult problem or help their clients discover helpful solutions. Many lasting benefits can be obtained from personal, couples or group therapy. You can learn more about therapy from the American Psychological Association or APA.

HOW DO I KNOW WHAT TO LOOK FOR IN A THERAPIST?

When you choose a therapist, you should feel “heard” and “seen” as well as understood and certainly not judged for the concerns that led you to seek counseling. A “good fit” is often described to explain how you should feel about the psychotherapist, counselor or psychologist you choose to work with. You should feel comfortable sharing your thoughts and feelings with your potential therapist as the process requires an investment of time and emotional energy. Your therapist should have good interpersonal skills as well as empathy and compassion. You should choose a therapist who has training in the areas that you are seeking help with. Some therapists have received specialized training in areas such as trauma, addictions or eating disorders. If your problems are serious enough to impact the quality of your life and your ability to function, you may need to find a specialist or someone who specializes in your particular problem. Many therapists have received general psychotherapy training and consider themselves generalists and are able to treat a range of difficulties. Some psychotherapists have received specialized training in addition to graduate school which helps them specialize and be experts in that area of healing

PSYCHOTHERAPISTS, PSYCHOLOGISTS, PSYCHOANALYSTS AND PSYCHIATRISTS—WHATS THE DIFFERENCE?

A psychotherapist is a mental health professional who may have an MD, Master’s or Doctoral degree and may use “talk therapy” as well as “somatic-based therapies” to help people experience and understand their emotional life. Psychotherapists may be psychiatrists, psychologists, licensed clinical social workers, counselors and marriage and family therapists. They have varying years of foundation training, and some, not all go on to receive advanced, post-graduate training in specialized areas. Psychiatrists are MD’s and are able to prescribe medication but may not provide psychotherapy, some do. A psychologist has a doctoral degree as a foundation in psychology and may or may not have received additional expertise and training in a specialized healing modality. Some Psychologists work in research, others provide therapy. Psychoanalysts have been through an extensive training experience which includes their own psychoanalysis or psychological exploration. They help people develop awareness of unconscious aspects of the mind. Some training institutes are allowing individuals with any graduate degree (law, history, as examples) study psychoanalysis and become psychoanalysts. You may not know whether your therapist has had their own in-depth therapy, it’s a question that you can ask. In my opinion, good psychotherapists have had their own good therapy.

HOW LONG WILL I NEED TO BE IN THERAPY?

Your personal needs and goals are always a priority, and will shape the time you spend in sessions. Many individuals desire focused, structured and time-limited sessions with a clear plan, targeting specific problems or goals that can be met within a relatively short period of time. Other difficulties require a more intensive focus and may take longer to resolve. This is especially true when people have been struggling for a long time and patterns and habits are rigid and entrenched. Some will do best with once weekly sessions, while others benefit from meeting twice weekly, or more when in crisis. Consistent sessions allow clients to examine patterns and dynamics that may interfere with healthy functioning. 

WHAT KIND OF THERAPY SHOULD I BE LOOKING FOR?

Increasing insight into problems and self-awareness is one goal of therapy, but unfortunately, that alone does not always lead to the desired change. For this reason, and with certain clients, it may be necessary to implement behavioral changes and track progress between sessions. Some clients need targeted, specific types of therapies that resolve symptoms related to trauma. The duration of treatment is highly variable and depends on many factors, including: the nature of the problem, client motivation and having realistic goals for change. Depending on client needs, one may benefit from a number of different therapeutic strategies and techniques. In your initial consultation, you should work with your therapist to figure out the best approach for you. Therapists may use or combine the following approaches: psychoanalysis, psychodynamic psychotherapy, psychoanalysis, relational therapy, interpersonal, humanistic, gestalt, attachment-focused therapy, trauma resolution techniques as well as evidence-based therapies such as EMDR therapy, Somatic Experiencing (SE), Dialectical Behavior Therapy or DBT, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy or CBT to name a few.

WHAT IS INTEGRATIVE PSYCHOTHERAPY AND HOW ARE PEOPLE HELPED BY THIS APPROACH?

  • EMDR therapy can increase the capacity to experience calm and comfort in the body, release trauma, uncover hidden blocking beliefs that may be sabotaging success and happiness or contributing to anxiety and depression, reduce the impact of negative experiences

  • Address dissociation, body image, eating disorders, compulsions, addictions, substance use or abuse and obsessions using cutting-edge therapies such as EMDR, focusing, somatic experiencing techniques and brainspotting, mindfulness meditation, biofeedback techniques, guided imagery, breathing techniques, restorative yoga therapy 

  • Learn more adaptive coping skills and self-soothing techniques and develop nurturing self-care rituals 

  • Process and heal painful feelings of loneliness, disappointment, sadness, loss, grief, guilt, shame, anger, envy and fear

  • Develop enhanced attention and awareness through relaxation techniques, mindfulness and radical acceptance

  • Resolve trauma and abuse symptoms, develop healthier boundaries and heal early attachment wounds

  • Unearth parts of yourself that are dissociated and explore areas of spirituality and your true nature

  • Connect with shadow aspects of the self for healthier integration as you learn to set healthy boundaries

  • Heal physical symptoms of disease and pain by connecting to sensations and trauma held in the body, habitual thoughts and unexpressed emotions

  • Learn breathing techniques to support the relaxation response

ARE MY THERAPY SESSIONS CONFIDENTIAL?

It is important to know that everything you say during psychotherapy sessions will be kept confidential. The only exceptions are when there is a danger that you may harm yourself or someone else, or in active cases of abuse. Mental health professionals are obligated by law to disclose that information to the appropriate authorities. These situations are rare. Most people find it a great relief to have a safe place where they are able to share what's on their mind with a non-judgmental, supportive and trained professional.

WHAT LIFE CHANGES CAN YOU EXPECT WITH EFFECTIVE THERAPY OR COACHING?

  • Reframe current life circumstances and gain a different perspective

  • Learn to manage difficult work and personal transitions and changes such as marriage, new baby, mid-life problems and aging

  • Gain the support needed to get through difficult times such as loss and change

  • Learn to feel and live a more authentic life, accept feelings of being “different”

  • Develop healthy self-esteem and resolve persistent negative “self-states”

  • Develop healthier coping skills, habits and boundaries

  • Have healthier personal and work relationships

  • Develop awareness of any repetitive patterns that interfere with success and happiness by understanding how past dynamics interfere with the present

  • Learn to better manage difficult people both personally and professionally

  • Develop a path of purpose and life fulfillment

  • Heal from past trauma and abuse and process traumatic memories and dissociation

  • Increase insight and self-awareness and identify innate strengths

  • Improve communication, learn conflict resolution, develop better listening and self-assertion skills

  • Address depression, sadness, feelings of despair and isolation

  • Learn helpful coping skills for stress, anxiety, phobias and panic attacks

  • Relieve stress and insomnia and learn relaxation responses

  • Manage destructive patterns that include drinking, eating, drugs, addictions and self-harm

  • Understand negative and habitual patterns of thinking and behaving

  • Resolve writing, creative and other performance blocks

  • Mourn losses such as separation, divorce, miscarriage, infertility or the death of a loved-one

  • Develop effective parenting skills

  • Address problems related to chronic pain, fibromyalgia, autoimmune disorders, medical procedures and diagnoses

  • Heal from sexual abuse, emotional/psychological abuse, domestic violence and natural disasters

  • Resolve sexual and identity concerns

  • Manage feelings of overwhelm, feel more embodied and develop an awareness connection between mind and body