Women In Transition
There are two mistakes one can make along the road to truth... not going all the way, and not starting ~Buddha
Women are notorious for putting the needs of others ahead of their own. But bringing yourself into the spotlight and identifying and acknowledging your needs will give you the energy and enthusiasm you need to be at your best. Does the mere thought of putting yourself first make you cringe? Does having "needs" feel selfish and indulgent? Here’s why it shouldn’t and a few ways to prioritize taking care of you.
When you take care of yourself, you give others the permission to do the same. Throughout the lifespan, we continue to consolidate our identity. When you put yourself first, you are likely modeling this for others such as your daughter or a friend. When you empower yourself you experience less anger and resentment, emotions beneath the surface and not in your awareness. In order to make long lasting and meaningful change you must begin to understand who you are and what you want in life. Like so many women, Now is the time to reconnect and become more self-aware! This is your personal life journey, you re-write the script and discover new and different choices! My intention is to empower and inspire people to follow their hearts. By following your heart, you will tap into your innate strength and wisdom that will lead you through challenges and toward a life you love! Your life. It's not selfish and being selfless to the point of depletion is not a virtue, it's self destructive.
Life transition counseling is for those who seek the next step in their lives and are in need of support to make the transition. You will identify goals and dreams and build upon the strengths you currently possess to explore the strengths or traits needed for the next stage of your life. In all transitions, you must be willing to explore your fears, examine your expectations and self-limiting notions and imagine the possibilities. Those transitions may involve the following:
- a career change
- marriage
- relationship building after relocation
- moving from married life to single life
- family planning
- childbirth
- parenting
- caring for elderly parents
- divorce recovery and remarriage
- developing a life plan
- redefining your life's purpose
- confronting the "empty nest"
- deepening your experience of intimacy and satisfaction in life
- achieving emotional/spiritual/intellectual balance.
Change is difficult for all of us. Not changing may feel safe but it can be a numbing experience. Below is an exercise to help put the process into motion, and it doesn't require much other than a pen and paper.
1. Allow yourself to dream! Thinking about other possibilities can feel unsafe when we fear change. Give it a try. Take a moment and allow yourself to dream about the "what if" in your ideal life.
2. Put your answers into categories, order them if you like, and explore!
3. Simplify and narrow it down, then add some action steps! Baby steps are fine, always.
4. Make it meaningful...bring it to life – visualize your intent!
5. Develop a timeline that is reasonable and not terrifying or overwhelming!
6. Incorporate accountability which may mean including someone else you trust who will hold you to task!
7. Allow yourself to receive and be nourished by your dreams and intent!
Allowing yourself to receive abundance and awe is the most difficult part of the journey!