Posts tagged positive psychology
The To-Do List Guaranteed To Make You Unhappy

"If only we'd stop trying to be happy, we could have a pretty good time." ~Edith Wharton

While reading this thoughtful article from Lifehacks, I was reminded of how much pride we take in our daily to-do lists and particularly, the emphasis our culture puts on productivity. Busy and efficient people we are, but would we be happier if we made a habit of practicing the not-to-do list more regularly?  Everyone has some kind of idea about how to find bliss and happiness -- 5 tips, 10 tips, and so on (I'm guilty of this!) -- it makes you wonder if all the positive, happy speak has an unintended consequence and is leaving us feeling defeated and in a place of despair. Is the struggle to be happy bringing us all down?  If any of this resonates for you, then perhaps you may find some wisdom in this "working backwards" approach.  The post suggests that

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Kimberly Seelbrede, LCSW is a New York City Psychotherapist + Consultant who splits her time between Manhattan and Santa Fe, providing online therapy to individuals and couples. With extensive training and experience, she provides psychological consultation, psychotherapy, EMDR therapy and executive coaching to a range of clients including VIP's + high-profile clients. As a women's emotional health + relationship expert, her specialties include: anxiety, depression, trauma resolution, addictions, relationship, intimacy and sexual concerns, health + autoimmune issues, loss + grief and women's mentoring. She enjoys writing, photography, yoga, meditation, travel and really good key lime pie. She lives with her husband, psychologist, scholar and mindfulness expert John Chambers Christopher. For more, subscribe to her newsletter or connect with her on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Psychology Today, EMDRIA and her personal websites KimSeelbrede.com, Santa Fe Integrative Psychotherapy or Well+Being Blog.

Better Mood Monday

It's Monday -- OH NO! Monday tends to generate mixed reviews. Some are happy to return to the structure of the week, others not so much. If your mood isn't quite as you'd like it to be, here are some suggestions to increase positive emotions and banish the blues. Like most things, it takes some work and practice -- and when you feel down, tying your shoes can be a huge effort -- give it a try, and maybe fix your mood in a few easy steps. Here are some suggestions:

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Kimberly Seelbrede, LCSW is a New York City Psychotherapist + Consultant who splits her time between Manhattan and Santa Fe, providing online therapy to individuals and couples. With extensive training and experience, she provides psychological consultation, psychotherapy, EMDR therapy and executive coaching to a range of clients including VIP's + high-profile clients. As a women's emotional health + relationship expert, her specialties include: anxiety, depression, trauma resolution, addictions, relationship, intimacy and sexual concerns, health + autoimmune issues, loss + grief and women's mentoring. She enjoys writing, photography, yoga, meditation, travel and really good key lime pie. She lives with her husband, psychologist, scholar and mindfulness expert John Chambers Christopher. For more, subscribe to her newsletter or connect with her on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Psychology Today, EMDRIA and her personal websites KimSeelbrede.com, Santa Fe Integrative Psychotherapy or Well+Being Blog.

Summer Break In Manhattan

The kids are home. And bored! New York City kids, teens and adolescents are accustomed to intense schedules and structure (perhaps more than what is ideal), so now what? Play dates, summer camp and other activities keep them connected to peers and may even help them make new friends. All good. What about quality parent time as a way to connect or reconnect with your children. Parents, spend some quality time with your kids now -- because you can -- without all the frenetic pressure of activities and homework. Kids get tired of fretting about performing at school too, so give them a break. Find some visual happiness

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Kimberly Seelbrede, LCSW is a New York City Psychotherapist + Consultant who splits her time between Manhattan and Santa Fe, providing online therapy to individuals and couples. With extensive training and experience, she provides psychological consultation, psychotherapy, EMDR therapy and executive coaching to a range of clients including VIP's + high-profile clients. As a women's emotional health + relationship expert, her specialties include: anxiety, depression, trauma resolution, addictions, relationship, intimacy and sexual concerns, health + autoimmune issues, loss + grief and women's mentoring. She enjoys writing, photography, yoga, meditation, travel and really good key lime pie. She lives with her husband, psychologist, scholar and mindfulness expert John Chambers Christopher. For more, subscribe to her newsletter or connect with her on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Psychology Today, EMDRIA and her personal websites KimSeelbrede.com, Santa Fe Integrative Psychotherapy or Well+Being Blog.

Make Room For Less Stress In Three Easy Steps

Is stress wrecking your life, and do you ever wonder what affect your stress has on you? We all handle stress differently. Some of us don't manage it well and are sick or unwell, whereas others seem to thrive with few ill-effects. A doctor once told me that nearly all or about 95% of the people he sees daily have stress-related illnesses. For starters, stress, in its many forms, compromises the immune system. As a result we are more vulnerable to a wide range of discomforts, aches, pains and disease. It’s important to know that whatever we experience — anxiety, sadness, negative thoughts, environmental stressors, calm, happiness or joy — bodies respond in sometimes very powerful ways. Is it possible to train yourself to make space for good things to happen? You know, learn to "let in" more good which may help "squeeze out" the bad. In my psychotherapy practice, I’ve noticed that many people seem to default to negative emotions and drama, even when things are, for the most part, fine. This pattern is very much habitual, as if early training in this behavior has created the wiring for the template of your life in the here and now, as well as all future experiences. Notice the way you talk to yourself.

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Kimberly Seelbrede, LCSW is a New York City Psychotherapist + Consultant who splits her time between Manhattan and Santa Fe, providing online therapy to individuals and couples. With extensive training and experience, she provides psychological consultation, psychotherapy, EMDR therapy and executive coaching to a range of clients including VIP's + high-profile clients. As a women's emotional health + relationship expert, her specialties include: anxiety, depression, trauma resolution, addictions, relationship, intimacy and sexual concerns, health + autoimmune issues, loss + grief and women's mentoring. She enjoys writing, photography, yoga, meditation, travel and really good key lime pie. She lives with her husband, psychologist, scholar and mindfulness expert John Chambers Christopher. For more, subscribe to her newsletter or connect with her on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Psychology Today, EMDRIA and her personal websites KimSeelbrede.com, Santa Fe Integrative Psychotherapy or Well+Being Blog.

A Pleasant, Good And Meaningful Life

If your looping negative self-talk has you stuck in the mud, you can fix this habit by learning more about how positive psychology works, and the research behind it. Many of my therapy and coaching clients have some knowledge of Positive Psychology and would like to learn to weave it into their own lives. Who wouldn't want to lead a happier, more satisfying life, right? The practice of increasing positive emotions may be the key to the kingdom, according to practitioners of positive psychology. Martin Seligman, founder of Positive Psychology, breaks down "happiness" for you in this YouTube Ted Talk. Enjoy as he discusses the pleasant, good and meaningful life and how to find "joy" by increasing positive emotions, meaning and learning to live in flow. If you thought Positive Psychology was just "happy talk" well, you're wrong! Learn more

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Kimberly Seelbrede, LCSW is a New York City Psychotherapist + Consultant who splits her time between Manhattan and Santa Fe, providing online therapy to individuals and couples. With extensive training and experience, she provides psychological consultation, psychotherapy, EMDR therapy and executive coaching to a range of clients including VIP's + high-profile clients. As a women's emotional health + relationship expert, her specialties include: anxiety, depression, trauma resolution, addictions, relationship, intimacy and sexual concerns, health + autoimmune issues, loss + grief and women's mentoring. She enjoys writing, photography, yoga, meditation, travel and really good key lime pie. She lives with her husband, psychologist, scholar and mindfulness expert John Chambers Christopher. For more, subscribe to her newsletter or connect with her on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Psychology Today, EMDRIA and her personal websites KimSeelbrede.com, Santa Fe Integrative Psychotherapy or Well+Being Blog.