Posts tagged relationship coaching
Online Therapy + Coaching For New Yorkers :: How To Find The Right Therapist For You

As if taking the first step to speak with a therapist isn't challenging enough! You need a little help, and it’s really hard to know where to begin. If you live in New York City and struggle to make it in to meet with your therapist in-person, there are many who are trained in Telehealth and offer psychotherapy sessions for individuals or couples using video sessions or telephone, which may be a way that better suits your lifestyle. Face-to face is ideal, but if you could use some psychological support, online therapy is better than going it alone.

It can be downright overwhelming sifting through professional therapy profiles on Psychology Today—there are so many experts and options to choose from. I'm a New Yorker, and I get it! You’re very busy with work, social and home life. You travel frequently with demands and a schedule that makes it challenging to schedule regular therapy appointments in an office. You and your partner have schedules with moving parts—you’re rarely even in the same room together. Busy New Yorkers frequently begin therapy but then discontinue because of multiple cancellations and appointment change requests. It becomes a barrier to treatment to feel as if you can’t commit to regular psychotherapy session times. Just when you get some momentum, you have deadlines or you have to travel, and then you’re embarrassed to reach out to the therapist to reengage, so you begin a new therapist search. Clients with high visibility or high-profile individuals needing therapy that provides more privacy, discretion and anonymity, do not want to risk being seen entering a therapy suite or sitting in a waiting room.

It can also be challenging to find a good therapist in New York. And, even more of a challenge to finally find a “good fit” for you. It’s an investment of time and money, as well as emotional energy to begin the process of opening up to a stranger and discussing concerns such as anxiety, depression, traumatic memories, a crisis, feeling “stuck” or relationship challenges. New Yorkers often feel that their lives look great on the outside, but privately they struggle with stress, acting out or isolation and loneliness. These are but a few of the concerns that many busy, professional New Yorkers struggle with. What follows are some helpful tips to guide you in the process of finding a therapist who works online, doing virtual therapy, otherwise known as teletherapy, telemedicine, telehealth, video chat, to name but a few terms.

Some individuals searching for an online therapist find professional websites such as Psychology Today to be helpful. You can scroll through and match your needs and goals with therapists who have the skills or experience to help you, examples may be loss, transitions, career problems or chronic sadness. Reviews on Google or other sites such as HealthGrades.com can be unreliable for all sorts of reasons. Some therapists offer consultations to better understand their style and whether you are a good fit to work together.

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Kimberly Seelbrede, LCSW is a New York City Psychotherapist + Consultant who splits her time between Manhattan and Santa Fe, providing online therapy to individuals and couples. With extensive training and experience, she provides psychological consultation, psychotherapy, EMDR therapy and executive coaching to a range of clients including VIP's + high-profile clients. As a women's emotional health + relationship expert, her specialties include: anxiety, depression, trauma resolution, addictions, relationship, intimacy and sexual concerns, health + autoimmune issues, loss + grief and women's mentoring. She enjoys writing, photography, yoga, meditation, travel and really good key lime pie. She lives with her husband, psychologist, scholar and mindfulness expert John Chambers Christopher. For more, subscribe to her newsletter or connect with her on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Psychology Today, EMDRIA and her personal websites KimSeelbrede.com, Santa Fe Integrative Psychotherapy or Well+Being Blog.

#shrinkthinks DBT Quick Reference :: Holiday Survival Skills For Anxiety, Addiction Triggers, Emotions And Problem Behaviors

Many of my psychotherapy patients ask for a Dialectical Behavior Therapy or a DBT cheat-sheet to have handy because... life happens, it's easy to feel overwhelmed, and it's hard to remember what to during those challenging moments! This is a basic list to remind you that you DO have other options at your disposal to help you better manage your relationship problems, trauma symptoms, addiction and eating disorder triggers, anxiety, depression, self-harm urges, relationship challenges, stress and strong emotions. With the holiday season comes lots of stress--and with no shortage of emotional triggers--people struggle with: alcohol and food in abundance, family stressors and memories that reignite feelings of anger, loss, sadness, longing and loneliness.

Even though situations and stressors are present, DBT can help you make healthier choices for yourself! A good place to start is to remember to focus, breathe and be mindful. When the skills don't work

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Kimberly Seelbrede, LCSW is a New York City Psychotherapist + Consultant who splits her time between Manhattan and Santa Fe, providing online therapy to individuals and couples. With extensive training and experience, she provides psychological consultation, psychotherapy, EMDR therapy and executive coaching to a range of clients including VIP's + high-profile clients. As a women's emotional health + relationship expert, her specialties include: anxiety, depression, trauma resolution, addictions, relationship, intimacy and sexual concerns, health + autoimmune issues, loss + grief and women's mentoring. She enjoys writing, photography, yoga, meditation, travel and really good key lime pie. She lives with her husband, psychologist, scholar and mindfulness expert John Chambers Christopher. For more, subscribe to her newsletter or connect with her on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Psychology Today, EMDRIA and her personal websites KimSeelbrede.com, Santa Fe Integrative Psychotherapy or Well+Being Blog.

Healing And Releasing Anger

Anger and negativity often remain long after you leave someone or someone leaves you. Anger is a power emotion. If you want to heal and move on, releasing anger is the only way to really free yourself from the other and release the energetic bind. Sometimes the fear is that if we give up the anger, we lose the connection altogether, and so we unconsciously hold onto the anger to maintain the connection. The questions are: What other ways can you imagine having a connection? What kind of connection do you wish to have? Do you really want to be free?

How have you left things, and are you still connected through anger? 

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Kimberly Seelbrede, LCSW is a New York City Psychotherapist + Consultant who splits her time between Manhattan and Santa Fe, providing online therapy to individuals and couples. With extensive training and experience, she provides psychological consultation, psychotherapy, EMDR therapy and executive coaching to a range of clients including VIP's + high-profile clients. As a women's emotional health + relationship expert, her specialties include: anxiety, depression, trauma resolution, addictions, relationship, intimacy and sexual concerns, health + autoimmune issues, loss + grief and women's mentoring. She enjoys writing, photography, yoga, meditation, travel and really good key lime pie. She lives with her husband, psychologist, scholar and mindfulness expert John Chambers Christopher. For more, subscribe to her newsletter or connect with her on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Psychology Today, EMDRIA and her personal websites KimSeelbrede.com, Santa Fe Integrative Psychotherapy or Well+Being Blog.

On Listening

You need not leave your room. Remain sitting at your table and listen. You need not even listen--simply wait. You need not even wait. Just learn to become quiet, and still and solitary. The world will freely offer itself to you to be unmasked. It has no choice. It will roll in ecstasy at your feet. ~Franz Kafka

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Kimberly Seelbrede, LCSW is a New York City Psychotherapist + Consultant who splits her time between Manhattan and Santa Fe, providing online therapy to individuals and couples. With extensive training and experience, she provides psychological consultation, psychotherapy, EMDR therapy and executive coaching to a range of clients including VIP's + high-profile clients. As a women's emotional health + relationship expert, her specialties include: anxiety, depression, trauma resolution, addictions, relationship, intimacy and sexual concerns, health + autoimmune issues, loss + grief and women's mentoring. She enjoys writing, photography, yoga, meditation, travel and really good key lime pie. She lives with her husband, psychologist, scholar and mindfulness expert John Chambers Christopher. For more, subscribe to her newsletter or connect with her on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Psychology Today, EMDRIA and her personal websites KimSeelbrede.com, Santa Fe Integrative Psychotherapy or Well+Being Blog.