Helping Men feel authentic and make meaningful change
Much of my private practice is devoted to helping men who are struggling with anxiety, depression, unresolved trauma, personal or professional crisis and relationship difficulties. Men enter therapy with a range of concerns, including anxiety, depression, substance abuse, addictions, stress, loneliness and relationship dissatisfaction. This practice provides a range of psychological & wellness services for men residing in NYC or NY state. Sessions are now conducted virtually.
Men frequently feel shame when they need help or support from others. They have been conditioned to view asking for help as a sign of weakness. For many men, society, culture, religion and certain types of upbringing have contributed to an inability to access their emotional lives. This means parts of the self remain hidden and unexpressed. Historically, men have not been encouraged, or permitted to be vulnerable or reveal their internal experiences. This leads to the development of the “false” self, the part they show the world. Effective therapy can help men find their “true” and authentic selves so they can thrive.
Men also tend to deny their emotions, as such, they experience high levels of isolation, loneliness, and disconnect from others. Men typically externalize or act out more than women, and are more likely to have health problems related to repressed rage, poor coping, and engage in acts of aggression, substance abuse, and suicide.
Does Self-sabotage interfere with having the life you desire?
There is this “part” of you that seems to interfere with your ability to have the life that you desire. You are not alone. We all have an inner “saboteur” that causes setbacks, and even self-destruction. Because this part is unconscious, the saboteur within you frequently runs the show. In an effort to protect you from shame, disappointment and other things, it actually triggers failure before success has a chance. Therapy can help you get to know this part of you, and give it a name. Psychotherapy with integrated IFS parts work and EMDR can help you have a better relationship with your inner saboteur, and this process can be transformative for you.
Whatever you want to call your inner saboteur, we are talking about a system of coping and adaptation. Therapists who regularly use the IFS model work with these “parts” within each person’s behavioral system, as the parts actively interfere with or sabotage the achievement of a more successful and meaningful life. To experience success in therapy, our parts need to be effectively identified and managed with curiosity, compassion, and care. These parts, the ones that hold experiences like images, thoughts, feelings, fear, and the other parts that were once protective, are now no longer needed to keep you safe.
How do we work with self-sabotage in therapy sessions?
Integrating IFS into therapy sessions can help you work directly with the hidden agenda of the parts, moving you swiftly through the conflict, stuck-ness, and gridlock. IFS can also elegantly and seamlessly be integrated with EMDR for super-charged coaching to help “stuck” clients become less frozen in their past. My training in Internal Family Systems or IFS, along with my long history of successfully using EMDR with therapy and coaching, allows me to help you move through these stuck areas, that may have something to do with your past—but we don’t have to linger there for long.
What follows are some examples of concerns that prompt men to reach out for help:
Economic and financial pressures to maintain a certain quality of life leads to stress, anxiety, and depression
Pressures related to maintaining status or societal roles, especially in status-driven cities like Manhattan
Hopelessness, shame, and inadequacy about not fulfilling stereotypical, masculine gender roles and feeling “not enough”
Career concerns or lack of fulfillment related to work and professional endeavors
Feeling trapped or “stuck” in a career, relationship or other aspects of life can lead to anxiety and depression
Sexual repression, inability to perform, sexual shame, sexual acting out, eating disorders, body image issues
Feeling disconnected from spouse, children, family, and friends leads to isolation and loneliness
Lack of purpose and/or disillusionment with life and purpose
Shame and guilt that may be rooted in childhood experiences
Addictive behaviors and cravings that are impacting work, leisure, or family experiences
Anxiety and poor stress management skills lead to maladaptive coping mechanisms
Chronic sadness and depression that may be rooted in current life circumstances or early childhood experiences
Unfulfilling friendships and romantic relationships
Inability to find a partner or problems dating
Pressures related to work and life balance or ADHD that impact concentration or completion of tasks
Difficulties related to parenting, shared parenting, blended family, separation, divorce
Chaotic life as a result of personality disorder, gambling addiction, sexual addiction, or other behaviors that have led to negative consequences
Overcoming unresolved grief or loss
Difficulty related to aging and challenging transitions
Romance, Dating & Relationships
Blocks to intimacy and trust
Healing from break-ups or divorce
Recovering from infidelity and betrayal
Feeling “not enough” or “unworthy of love”
Repeating patterns such as finding “unavailable” partners
Co-dependency
Fear of abandonment in relationships
Relationship dissatisfaction, married and unfulfilled
Difficulties communicating needs and desires
Dating again
Divorce transition
Emotional Concerns
Generalized anxiety disorder (GAD), panic disorder, social anxiety
Major depression, bipolar, seasonal affective disorder (SAD)
Dissociation and numbness
Anger and rage
ADHD and low motivation
Autism spectrum disorder (ASD) formerly known as Aspergers
Health Concerns
Deleterious stress
High Blood Pressure
Diabetes and metabolic concerns
Chronic Fatigue
Autoimmune Disorders
Cancer
Nutrition
Male hormonal concerns such as low T (testosterone)
Neurotransmitter dysfunction
Sexual Dysfunction
Sexual problems, performance issues
Inability to orgasm
Sex drive concerns
Sexual compulsivity
Sexual fear and aversion
Shame related to sexuality
Recovering from negative experiences
Reclaiming sexuality after abuse
Recovering from childhood sexual abuse, assault, violence, harassment
Sexuality, Lifestyle & Identity
Religious and cultural concerns
Gender non-conforming, queer, transgender, LGBTQ+
Kink, fetish, BDSM
Sexual orientation, bisexuality
Alternative lifestyle, polyamorous lifestyle, open relationships
About Men’s Therapy NYC
The goal is to individualize treatment to your unique physical, emotional, cognitive, and spiritual needs. I have experience working with a broad range of symptoms and approaches in psychotherapy, including but not limited to EMDR Therapy, Psychodynamic Psychotherapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Solution-Focused Therapy, Internal Family Systems, and Holistic Mind-Body Medicine. Therapy begins with a therapeutic consultation, where you will gain a wealth of information about your difficulties. Many people feel better after the first session. The initial consultation also lays the groundwork for future treatment as we determine the best modalities to help you heal. Concierge therapy is available for men in personal or professional crises.
Therapist to help with men’s issues With Nearly 20 Years Of Experience
This practice offers supportive, compassionate, and comprehensive care and also stays current on research related to mental health. My goal for you is to use my expertise and extensive training to get you back to living your life as quickly as possible.
Book An Appointment For Men’s therapy & counseling Today
To get started, book an appointment or text at 212-529-8292. Integrative Psychotherapy & Wellness Manhattan can help you in your healing journey toward optimal mental health.
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Exquisitely-Tailored Therapy & Experienced Guidance
You are a unique human, and your therapy should reflect your need for Compassion, agency, change, responsiveness and empowerment. Our work together will include:
Increasing your energy and vitality
Improving and balancing your mood
Managing your stress and anxiety
Improving your motivation and focus
Managing your movement, nutrition and sleep needs
Reducing or eliminating unnecessary medications when desired
About Holistic Psychotherapy & Wellness Manhattan
I’ve been in the holistic wellness & psychology field for nearly twenty years. As a licensed psychotherapist with a private psychotherapy practice in New York City, I blend what I’ve found to be the most effective practices in psychology, neurobiology, attachment, alternative medicine, nutrition, coaching, and mind-body medicine practices. I believe that lasting change and transformation is possible when given the right tools to thrive. I’ve received extensive training and certification in a range of innovative, effective, and evidence-based therapies to offer comprehensive care.
As a holistic psychotherapist, I believe it’s important to address the root cause of emotional and somatic suffering. As a trauma-trained therapist, I am influenced by humanist and existential philosophy, relational theory, attachment theory, psychoanalytic concepts, mindfulness, and somatic, mind, and body psychology. I have received extensive post-graduate training in EMDR Therapy, Internal Family Systems, Psychodynamic Psychotherapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Somatic Experiencing (SE), Nutrition and Integrative Medicine For Mental Health, and more. In marriage and couple counseling, my work is influenced by the Gottman Method, Internal Family Systems, and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).
As neuroscience demonstrates, the brain can heal, and the body and mind are inextricably linked. My 20+ years of experience with mindfulness, yoga therapy, and meditation greatly influence my work as a mental health provider. A Holistic therapy model ensures that you thrive in the many aspects of your life—including your relationship with yourself and others. Together, we work with practices designed to create an environment that supports optimal physical and mental health well-being. Lasting change and transformation is possible when given the right tools to thrive.
Holistic Psychotherapy & Wellness Manhattan Therapy Modalities
Psychoanalytic, Relational & Interpersonal Psychotherapy
Attachment-Focused Couple Therapy (traditional, non-traditional, non-monogamy, alternative lifestyle couples), Sexual Counseling
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), DBT Skills
Solution-Focused Brief Therapy
Advanced level EMDR Therapy, Parts Therapy, Integrated Internal Family Systems (IFS), Somatic Experiencing
Positive Psychology, Positive Neuroplasticity Coaching
Transformational, Peak Performance& Wellness Coaching
Urban Zen Integrative Therapy, Reiki, Energy Medicine, Yoga Therapy
Nutrition & Integrative Medicine For Mental Health, Nutritional Amino Acid Protocols (using precursor amino acids, fatty acids, herbal medicine, supplement recommendations for mood, anxiety, ADHD, addictions, cravings, brain fog, PTSD, and more)
Clinical Hypnosis
Kimberly Seelbrede: Post Graduate Training & Certifications
New York University - Advanced CBT Certification, Psychodynamic Psychotherapy, Advanced Clinical Practice, Clinical Approaches to the Addictions, Clinical Practice with Adolescents
Somatic Experiencing® International (in progress)
Eating Disorders, Compulsions & Addictions (EDCAS) Certification
William Alanson White Institute of Psychiatry, Psychoanalysis & Psychology
EMDR Advanced Level EMDR Practitioner - Laurel Parnell PhD
Brainspotting - Lisa Schwarz, MEd
Positive Neuroplasticity Training Certification - Rick Hanson PhD
Nutrition and Integrative Medicine for Mental Health - Leslie Korn PhD
IFS Immersion: Integrating Internal Family Systems Across Clinical Applications - Frank Anderson, PhD
Dialectical Behavior Therapy - Behavior Tech Institute
Mindful Self-Compassion Training - Christopher K. Germer, PhD & Kristen Neff PhD
Executive Life Coaching - New York University
Institute for Life Coach Training
Urban Zen Integrative Therapy Training Program
Additional Professional Training: Gottman Institute for Couples, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Hypnosis for Trauma & PTSD, Focusing Institute, Whole Body Focusing with Glenn Fleisch, Ph.D. EMDR & Trauma Treatment with Jennifer Sweeton, PsyD, MS, MA. Ongoing workshops: Ester Perel, Bessel van der Kolk, MD, Dan Siegel, MD, Peter Levine, Ph.D, Gabor Mate, MD, Richard Schwartz, PhD, Sue Johnson, IFS, Somatic Experiencing, Trauma-Focused Treatment, Yoga Therapy, Phoenix Rising Yoga Therapy
Clinical practice Expertise & Specialties
Depression (major, postpartum depression, SAD, bipolar disorder, atypical depression, dysthymia, situational, chronic sadness)
Anxiety (panic, generalized, phobias, social, PTSD), fear, worry, stress management, insomnia, work/life balance
Women’s hormonal health, perimenopause and menopause mental health assessment/coaching, chronic pain
Trauma resolution, obstacles, blocking beliefs, self-sabotage, problem patterns, and habits
Crisis counseling, life challenges, transitions, grief, loss and bereavement
Dysfunctional relationship dynamics, professional and personal relationships, communication difficulties, divorce, separation
Shadow work, energetic blocks, boundary work
Addictions, behavioral addictions, substance abuse, alcoholism and compulsions
Family of origin, codependency, family conflict resolution, submissiveness and recovery from family enmeshment, ACOA
Recovery and post-rehab support (step-down support, wellness planning, new habit maintenance, and self-care)
Celebrity mental health expertise and high-profile, VIP clients, therapy for entrepreneurs, executives, creatives, medical professionals
talk therapy not enough? Find lasting Healing & Transformation with EMDR
If traditional talk therapy has not yielded the desired healing results, it might be time to consider a different model of care. I’ve been trained in many effective therapies, but I find myself consistently returning to EMDR. EMDR Therapy changed my practice years ago because it works and it changes lives. It is the one treatment method that is consistently powerful and transformative for my patients, especially when other highly effective therapies such as IFS, CBT, and Somatic Experiencing are integrated into sessions. Therapy is highly individualized, and depending on your unique needs, chosen therapy modalities may include: EMDR, Psychodynamic Psychotherapy, CBT, Internal Family Systems, Mindfulness, and Somatic Experiencing®. I completed EMDRIA-approved EMDR advanced Levels I & II training and supervision many years ago and I’ve used it in my New York City psychotherapy private practice consistently and with excellent results.
EMDR therapy is highly effective in addressing underlying beliefs, patterns, and blocks that can hinder progress in traditional therapy or life coaching. EMDR treatment can help transform mere survival into thriving, leading to a life free from disruptive symptoms. By reprocessing difficult or traumatic memories, EMDR can boost resilience and vitality in the nervous system. EMDR is not only for trauma; it is also valuable for enhancing performance in athletes, creatives, and work-related endeavors. During the pandemic, many of us discovered that EMDR can be effectively offered to many patients virtually. Virtual EMDR can be a powerful addition to your therapy journey, whether used in conjunction with your existing therapy or as a standalone solution. learn more about EMDR Therapy
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Expert, experienced Online Therapy Serving NYC & NY State Residents
faqs about online therapy in nYC: how does Virtual therapy/video therapy work?
The technology for telemedicine has been available for decades, but the pandemic made virtual therapy a necessity. It's surprising how many people have benefitted from online virtual therapy. Like many therapists in NYC, I've been conducting virtual sessions for some time, so I'm comfortable working with technology. It's important to note that teletherapy isn't suitable for everyone seeking counseling, as many people prefer conducting psychotherapy sessions in person.
How does Online therapy work?
This holistic psychotherapy and wellness practice in New York City understands that many people have busy schedules and may find it difficult to commute to therapy sessions. That's why I offer virtual therapy and telephone therapy as modern options for counseling. This is especially convenient for individuals who work, travel, have young children with different schedules, are young adults, college students, or expats. After scheduling an online session, you will receive a secure session link from the HIPAA-compliant platform SimplePractice. You can access the virtual therapy office using your computer, iOS/Android phone, iPad, or any other tablet-enabled device. Most laptops have a built-in camera and microphone, making it easy to participate in the sessions. Creating an emotionally safe space in your home or office for virtual sessions is also important, and all you need is a strong internet connection.
What kind of therapy is offered virtually?
Online sessions are treated the same way as face-to-face sessions, using the same evidence-based therapy modalities, including Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), EMDR, Internal Family Systems (IFS), trauma therapy, psychodynamic psychotherapy, somatic psychotherapy, life coaching, wellness coaching, and stress management. Remote EMDR has been found to be just as effective for trauma resolution and other concerns as in-person EMDR. However, not everyone or every situation should be treated remotely, so it’s important to contact potential therapists to determine if virtual therapy is appropriate for your situation. Research now demonstrates that therapy sessions conducted by teletherapy are just as effective as face-to-face therapy. Read the research.
Who can benefit from virtual therapy?
Anyone can access high-quality therapy in a private, confidential, and convenient manner. Seeking therapy with an experienced NYC psychotherapist can lead to healthier relationships, new perspectives, reaching goals, and building resilience. Therapy can provide support during stressful and challenging times, helping you feel less alone with your problems. Living in New York City comes with unique challenges, including a fast-paced lifestyle and high levels of stress. If you're experiencing feelings of anxiety, depression, loneliness, loss, substance use, or unresolved trauma PTSD, know that you're not alone. Holistic Psychotherapy & Wellness Manhattan offers evidence-based counseling and an integrative psychotherapy philosophy tailored to your unique needs. As a licensed psychotherapist in New York, I can see you whether you live in the NYC metro area or anywhere in New York State. There are various modern therapy options available, such as BetterHelp, TalkSpace, and the numerous licensed psychotherapists and psychologists on Psychology Today who provide high-quality therapy in the US and worldwide. Interested in receiving therapy in New York using your health insurance benefits? Holistic Psychotherapy & Wellness Manhattan is In-Network with BCBS & Aetna, and Out-of-Network with most health insurances. I have also been reimbursed by Aetna, Cigna, BCBS, Emblem, Oxford, United, and many more for out-of-network mental health services. Most of my clients are compensated about 50-100% of my fees.
How can Integrative Psychotherapy & Wellness NYC enhance your life?
Gain support through a personal crisis, transition, loss, trauma, or challenging situation that causes personal or relational distress
Heal codependency and feel empowered, autonomous, safe, and secure in your life as self-esteem naturally increases
Find relief for sadness, depression, and chronic depression with interpersonal psychotherapy, cognitive behavioral therapy, and EMDR
Uncover unconscious conflicts, patterns and blocking beliefs that may be sabotaging your success and happiness
Address dissociation, body image, eating disorders, compulsions, addictions, substance use or abuse, and obsessions
Learn to identify important thoughts, feelings, emotions, motivations, and unconscious internal conflicts with insight-oriented therapy
Develop enhanced self-awareness as well as empathy and compassion for self and others with relational therapy
Break through blocks in intimacy, detach from unhealthy relationships, and break patterns of repetition in significant relationships
Learn to identify triggers that lead to anger, confusion, and relationship dysfunction in couple and relationship counseling
Develop effective, assertive communication skills to benefit personal and professional relationships
Learn more adaptive coping skills, self-care rituals, self-acceptance, and mindfulness to create a healthy work-life balance
Uncover patterns of crippling perfectionism that interfere with achievement, success, and personal happiness using EMDR
Process and heal painful feelings of loneliness, disappointment, sadness, loss, grief, guilt, shame, anger, envy and fear
Resolve trauma and abuse symptoms, develop healthier boundaries, and heal early attachment wounds with EMDR Therapy
Discover protocols using precursor amino acids, fatty acids, herbal medicine, supplements for mood, anxiety, ADHD, addictions, cravings, brain fog, PTSD
Identify hormone-related (peri-menopause, menopause) anxiety, depression, insomnia, brain fog, low energy, pain, migraines, fibromyalgia
Learn self-care, meditation, breathing techniques, energy medicine & somatic therapy practices to regulate your nervous system
Obtain consultations for referrals to psychopharmacologists, psychiatrists, psychologists, and other allied professionals