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you may not realize that Shame avoidance is keeping you from having a pleasurable and satisfying life. holistic Psychotherapy & Wellness Manhattan offers highly-effective Psychotherapy for the experience of Shame and shame defenses using EMDR Therapy, Relational Psychotherapy, Somatic Experiencing, IFS, and CBT Techniques In New York City and Online via Teletherapy.

Shame is a complex, emotional response that usually forms during early childhood development. It shows up differently for people, but typically, people describe feeling “bad” or “unworthy.” Shame makes it difficult to appropriately filter negative, potentially harmful experiences as well as respond to positive experiences in a healthy ways. Unresolved shame can be pervasive and even cause people to shut down globally, severely impacting the quality of one’s life, relationships, friendships, intimacy, productivity, and professional endeavors. Shame can play a role in low self-esteem, anxiety, social anxiety and phobia, depression, substance abuse, anger and rage, acting out, sexual problems, aggression, fighting behavior, defensive behaviors, body dysmorphia, eating disorders, and other mental health challenges.

Many who enter therapy are unaware that the source of their longstanding suffering is shame. Traumatic experiences such as childhood abuse, childhood neglect, relational trauma, verbal abuse, narcissistic abuse, and bullying are a few examples of situations that can lead someone to develop shame responses.

What is it like to experience feelings of shame?

  • Lack of agency in one’s life, feeling out of control, feeling as if you don’t matter

  • Unable to access and express true self, feeling like others won’t accept you, keeping feeling to yourself

  • Hiding, isolating, feeling paralyzed and frozen, avoiding social experiences

  • Perfectionistic tendencies, fear of failure

  • Easily led or taken advantage of

  • Feeling triggered and defensive

  • Feeling under-appreciated, unvalued, unlovable, inadequate, rejected

  • Poor eye contact, posture

At their core, individuals who experience shame may feel they are unworthy of love. Many who struggle with shame-related defenses will avoid connecting with others altogether out of fear that others will eventually conclude they are bad.

How does toxic shame interfere with your personal and professional relationships?

  • Difficulties forming and sustaining close relationships

  • Feeling unworthy of love

  • Increased feelings of isolation and loneliness

  • Struggle to feel open and honest with family, friends and colleagues

  • Tendency to enter and stay in abusive relationships

  • Frequently act abusively toward others

Individuals who experience shame will often attempt to manage their shame by engaging in harmful behaviors such as restrictive eating, binge eating, and even cutting and self-harm practices., restrictive eating, or binge-eating. According to research, toxic internalized shame is also linked to suicidal ideation.

Many people attempt to cope with unhealthy shame, or seek acceptance and validation through these harmful behaviors:

  • Substance abuse

  • Addictive behaviors

  • Compulsive behaviors

  • Perfectionism

  • Self-sabotage

  • Overworking themselves

  • Difficulty setting protective boundaries

  • Codependency

According to recent research, unhealthy shame is often linked to suicidal thoughts. Toxic shame can take a significant toll on your mental health, leading to low self-esteem, sadness, and other mental health concerns. Unfortunately, due to the social stigma surrounding mental illness, many people with internal shame fail to seek help.

About shame Therapy NYC

This practice provides a range of psychological & wellness services in NYC and throughout NY state. The goal is to individualize treatment to your unique physical, emotional, cognitive, and spiritual needs. I have experience working with a broad range of symptoms and approaches in psychotherapy, including but not limited to EMDR Therapy, Psychodynamic Psychotherapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Solution-Focused Therapy, Internal Family Systems, and Holistic Mind-Body Medicine. Therapy begins with a therapeutic consultation, where you will gain a wealth of information about your difficulties. Many people feel better after the first session. The initial consultation also lays the groundwork for future treatment as we determine the best modalities to help you heal.

Shame Reduction Therapist With Nearly 20 Years Of Experience

This practice offers supportive, compassionate and comprehensive care and also stays current on research related to mental health. My goal for you is to use my expertise and extensive training to get you back to living your life as quickly as possible.

Book An Appointment For Shame Therapy Today

To get started, book an appointment or text at 212-529-8292. Integrative Psychotherapy & Wellness Manhattan can help you in your healing journey toward optimal mental health. 

Effective Therapy For Shame NYC


Exquisitely-Tailored Therapy & Experienced Guidance

You are a unique human, and your therapy should reflect your need for Compassion, agency, change, responsiveness and empowerment. Our work together will include:

  • Increasing your energy and vitality

  • Improving and balancing your mood

  • Managing your stress and anxiety

  • Improving your motivation and focus

  • Managing your movement, nutrition and sleep needs

  • Reducing or eliminating unnecessary medications when desired

Healing Modalities Used In This NYC Therapy & Wellness Practice

Psychodynamic Psychotherapy

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Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

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EMDR Therapy

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Internal Family Systems

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Somatic Experiencing

SE is a body-oriented therapeutic model that helps heal trauma and other stress disorders. It is a multi-disciplinary study of stress physiology, psychology, ethology, biology, neuroscience, indigenous healing practices, and medical biophysics… MORE

Solution-Focused Brief Therapy

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About Holistic Psychotherapy & Wellness Manhattan

I’ve been in the holistic wellness & psychology field for nearly twenty years. As a licensed psychotherapist with a private psychotherapy practice in New York City, I blend what I’ve found to be the most effective practices in psychology, neurobiology, attachment, alternative medicine, nutrition, coaching, and mind-body medicine practices. I believe that lasting change and transformation is possible when given the right tools to thrive. I’ve received extensive training and certification in a range of innovative, effective, and evidence-based therapies to offer comprehensive care.

As a holistic psychotherapist, I believe it’s important to address the root cause of emotional and somatic suffering. As a trauma-trained therapist, I am influenced by humanist and existential philosophy, relational theory, attachment theory, psychoanalytic concepts, mindfulness, and somatic, mind, and body psychology. I have received extensive post-graduate training in EMDR Therapy, Internal Family Systems, Psychodynamic Psychotherapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Somatic Experiencing (SE), Nutrition and Integrative Medicine For Mental Health, and more. In marriage and couple counseling, my work is influenced by the Gottman Method, Internal Family Systems, and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).

As neuroscience demonstrates, the brain can heal, and the body and mind are inextricably linked. My 20+ years of experience with mindfulness, yoga therapy, and meditation greatly influence my work as a mental health provider. A Holistic therapy model ensures that you thrive in the many aspects of your life—including your relationship with yourself and others. Together, we work with practices designed to create an environment that supports optimal physical and mental health well-being. Lasting change and transformation is possible when given the right tools to thrive.

Holistic Psychotherapy & Wellness Manhattan Therapy Modalities

  • Psychoanalytic, Relational & Interpersonal Psychotherapy

  • Attachment-Focused Couple Therapy (traditional, non-traditional, non-monogamy, alternative lifestyle couples), Sexual Counseling

  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), DBT Skills

  • Solution-Focused Brief Therapy

  • Advanced level EMDR Therapy, Parts Therapy, Integrated Internal Family Systems (IFS), Somatic Experiencing

  • Positive Psychology, Positive Neuroplasticity Coaching

  • Transformational, Peak Performance& Wellness Coaching

  • Urban Zen Integrative Therapy, Reiki, Energy Medicine, Yoga Therapy

  • Nutrition & Integrative Medicine For Mental Health, Nutritional Amino Acid Protocols (using precursor amino acids, fatty acids, herbal medicine, supplement recommendations for mood, anxiety, ADHD, addictions, cravings, brain fog, PTSD, and more)

  • Clinical Hypnosis

Kimberly Seelbrede: Post Graduate Training & Certifications

  • New York University - Advanced CBT Certification, Psychodynamic Psychotherapy, Advanced Clinical Practice, Clinical Approaches to the Addictions, Clinical Practice with Adolescents

  • Somatic Experiencing® International (in progress)

  • Eating Disorders, Compulsions & Addictions (EDCAS) Certification

    William Alanson White Institute of Psychiatry, Psychoanalysis & Psychology

  • EMDR Advanced Level EMDR Practitioner - Laurel Parnell PhD

  • Brainspotting - Lisa Schwarz, MEd

  • Positive Neuroplasticity Training Certification - Rick Hanson PhD

  • Nutrition and Integrative Medicine for Mental Health - Leslie Korn PhD

  • IFS Immersion: Integrating Internal Family Systems Across Clinical Applications - Frank Anderson, PhD

  • Dialectical Behavior Therapy - Behavior Tech Institute

  • Mindful Self-Compassion Training - Christopher K. Germer, PhD & Kristen Neff PhD

  • Executive Life Coaching - New York University

  • Institute for Life Coach Training

  • Urban Zen Integrative Therapy Training Program

    Additional Professional Training: Gottman Institute for Couples, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Hypnosis for Trauma & PTSD, Focusing Institute, Whole Body Focusing with Glenn Fleisch, Ph.D. EMDR & Trauma Treatment with Jennifer Sweeton, PsyD, MS, MA. Ongoing workshops: Ester Perel, Bessel van der Kolk, MD, Dan Siegel, MD, Peter Levine, Ph.D, Gabor Mate, MD, Richard Schwartz, PhD, Sue Johnson, IFS, Somatic Experiencing, Trauma-Focused Treatment, Yoga Therapy, Phoenix Rising Yoga Therapy

Clinical practice Expertise & Specialties

  • Depression (major, postpartum depression, SAD, bipolar disorder, atypical depression, dysthymia, situational, chronic sadness)

  • Anxiety (panic, generalized, phobias, social, PTSD), fear, worry, stress management, insomnia, work/life balance

  • Women’s hormonal health, perimenopause and menopause mental health assessment/coaching, chronic pain

  • Trauma resolution, obstacles, blocking beliefs, self-sabotage, problem patterns, and habits

  • Crisis counseling, life challenges, transitions, grief, loss and bereavement

  • Dysfunctional relationship dynamics, professional and personal relationships, communication difficulties, divorce, separation

  • Shadow work, energetic blocks, boundary work

  • Addictions, behavioral addictions, substance abuse, alcoholism and compulsions

  • Family of origin, codependency, family conflict resolution, submissiveness and recovery from family enmeshment, ACOA

  • Recovery and post-rehab support (step-down support, wellness planning, new habit maintenance, and self-care)

  • Celebrity mental health expertise and high-profile, VIP clients, therapy for entrepreneurs, executives, creatives, medical professionals

talk therapy not enough? Find lasting Healing & Transformation with EMDR

If traditional talk therapy has not yielded the desired healing results, it might be time to consider a different model of care. I’ve been trained in many effective therapies, but I find myself consistently returning to EMDR. EMDR Therapy changed my practice years ago because it works and it changes lives. It is the one treatment method that is consistently powerful and transformative for my patients, especially when other highly effective therapies such as IFS, CBT, and Somatic Experiencing are integrated into sessions. Therapy is highly individualized, and depending on your unique needs, chosen therapy modalities may include: EMDR, Psychodynamic Psychotherapy, CBT, Internal Family Systems, Mindfulness, and Somatic Experiencing®. I completed EMDRIA-approved EMDR advanced Levels I & II training and supervision many years ago and I’ve used it in my New York City psychotherapy private practice consistently and with excellent results.

EMDR therapy is highly effective in addressing underlying beliefs, patterns, and blocks that can hinder progress in traditional therapy or life coaching. EMDR treatment can help transform mere survival into thriving, leading to a life free from disruptive symptoms. By reprocessing difficult or traumatic memories, EMDR can boost resilience and vitality in the nervous system. EMDR is not only for trauma; it is also valuable for enhancing performance in athletes, creatives, and work-related endeavors. During the pandemic, many of us discovered that EMDR can be effectively offered to many patients virtually. Virtual EMDR can be a powerful addition to your therapy journey, whether used in conjunction with your existing therapy or as a standalone solution. learn more about EMDR Therapy

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Expert, experienced Online Therapy Serving NYC & NY State Residents

faqs about online therapy in nYC: how does Virtual therapy/video therapy work?

The technology for telemedicine has been available for decades, but the pandemic made virtual therapy a necessity. It's surprising how many people have benefitted from online virtual therapy. Like many therapists in NYC, I've been conducting virtual sessions for some time, so I'm comfortable working with technology. It's important to note that teletherapy isn't suitable for everyone seeking counseling, as many people prefer conducting psychotherapy sessions in person.

How does Online therapy work?

This holistic psychotherapy and wellness practice in New York City understands that many people have busy schedules and may find it difficult to commute to therapy sessions. That's why I offer virtual therapy and telephone therapy as modern options for counseling. This is especially convenient for individuals who work, travel, have young children with different schedules, are young adults, college students, or expats. After scheduling an online session, you will receive a secure session link from the HIPAA-compliant platform SimplePractice. You can access the virtual therapy office using your computer, iOS/Android phone, iPad, or any other tablet-enabled device. Most laptops have a built-in camera and microphone, making it easy to participate in the sessions. Creating an emotionally safe space in your home or office for virtual sessions is also important, and all you need is a strong internet connection.

What kind of therapy is offered virtually?

Online sessions are treated the same way as face-to-face sessions, using the same evidence-based therapy modalities, including Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), EMDR, Internal Family Systems (IFS), trauma therapy, psychodynamic psychotherapy, somatic psychotherapy, life coaching, wellness coaching, and stress management. Remote EMDR has been found to be just as effective for trauma resolution and other concerns as in-person EMDR. However, not everyone or every situation should be treated remotely, so it’s important to contact potential therapists to determine if virtual therapy is appropriate for your situation. Research now demonstrates that therapy sessions conducted by teletherapy are just as effective as face-to-face therapy. Read the research.

Who can benefit from virtual therapy?

Anyone can access high-quality therapy in a private, confidential, and convenient manner. Seeking therapy with an experienced NYC psychotherapist can lead to healthier relationships, new perspectives, reaching goals, and building resilience. Therapy can provide support during stressful and challenging times, helping you feel less alone with your problems. Living in New York City comes with unique challenges, including a fast-paced lifestyle and high levels of stress. If you're experiencing feelings of anxiety, depression, loneliness, loss, substance use, or unresolved trauma PTSD, know that you're not alone. Holistic Psychotherapy & Wellness Manhattan offers evidence-based counseling and an integrative psychotherapy philosophy tailored to your unique needs. As a licensed psychotherapist in New York, I can see you whether you live in the NYC metro area or anywhere in New York State. There are various modern therapy options available, such as BetterHelp, TalkSpace, and the numerous licensed psychotherapists and psychologists on Psychology Today who provide high-quality therapy in the US and worldwide. Interested in receiving therapy in New York using your health insurance benefits? Holistic Psychotherapy & Wellness Manhattan is In-Network with BCBS & Aetna, and Out-of-Network with most health insurances. I have also been reimbursed by Aetna, Cigna, BCBS, Emblem, Oxford, United, and many more for out-of-network mental health services. Most of my clients are compensated about 50-100% of my fees.

How can Integrative Psychotherapy & Wellness NYC enhance your life?

  • Gain support through a personal crisis, transition, loss, trauma, or challenging situation that causes personal or relational distress

  • Heal codependency and feel empowered, autonomous, safe, and secure in your life as self-esteem naturally increases

  • Find relief for sadness, depression, and chronic depression with interpersonal psychotherapy, cognitive behavioral therapy, and EMDR

  • Uncover unconscious conflicts, patterns and blocking beliefs that may be sabotaging your success and happiness

  • Address dissociation, body image, eating disorders, compulsions, addictions, substance use or abuse, and obsessions

  • Learn to identify important thoughts, feelings, emotions, motivations, and unconscious internal conflicts with insight-oriented therapy

  • Develop enhanced self-awareness as well as empathy and compassion for self and others with relational therapy

  • Break through blocks in intimacy, detach from unhealthy relationships, and break patterns of repetition in significant relationships

  • Learn to identify triggers that lead to anger, confusion, and relationship dysfunction in couple and relationship counseling

  • Develop effective, assertive communication skills to benefit personal and professional relationships

  • Learn more adaptive coping skills, self-care rituals, self-acceptance, and mindfulness to create a healthy work-life balance

  • Uncover patterns of crippling perfectionism that interfere with achievement, success, and personal happiness using EMDR

  • Process and heal painful feelings of loneliness, disappointment, sadness, loss, grief, guilt, shame, anger, envy and fear

  • Resolve trauma and abuse symptoms, develop healthier boundaries, and heal early attachment wounds with EMDR Therapy

  • Discover protocols using precursor amino acids, fatty acids, herbal medicine, supplements for mood, anxiety, ADHD, addictions, cravings, brain fog, PTSD

  • Identify hormone-related (peri-menopause, menopause) anxiety, depression, insomnia, brain fog, low energy, pain, migraines, fibromyalgia

  • Learn self-care, meditation, breathing techniques, energy medicine & somatic therapy practices to regulate your nervous system

  • Obtain consultations for referrals to psychopharmacologists, psychiatrists, psychologists, and other allied professionals