Finding Balance With DBT’s Wise Mind
Wise Mind is a highly-effective core skill used Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). According to DBT, we have three states of mind: reasonable mind, emotion mind, and wise mind. Wise mind is thought of as the balance or integration of the reasonable and the emotion mind. Reasonable mind is the rational part of you, just-the-facts, thinking state of mind where you are ruled by logic. When you find yourself governed by emotion mind, your emotions are in control. You tend to be led by strong feelings and desires. Both states have their value and provide important information, but it’s easy to become stuck in one state of mind, being either cut-off from emotions or controlled by emotions. That is where wise mind becomes an important ally in your goal to have a more balanced life and state of mind.
In dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), the goal is to have wise mind available to you in situations where you are pulled to an extreme state or polarization. Wise mind is the integration or intersection of the reasonable mind and the emotion mind. Put another way, wise mind is your intuition or inner wisdom. It’s the state where you are wisely able to balance between the cool detachment of reason, and the wild current of emotion mind. Incorporating this wise mind DBT practice allows you to find balance between inaction and the active state of doing. Practicing wise mind allows you to engage in your life with awareness, with the goal of mindful presence.
If you are prone to impulsivity, practicing wise mind allows you to make decisions that support your life, and ultimately improve your self-esteem and self-worth. As you begin this practice, notice when a feeling, thought or potential action arises, take a pause, and ask yourself, “Is this wise mind?” No need to respond quickly, allow yourself to just breathe and see if an answer comes to you. It is the pause that becomes a healing resource for you, allowing you to implement wise mind. Of course, learning new psychological skills takes time and requires practice. You are free to search the internet for DBT and other helpful DBT skills like wise mind. If you struggle with emotional regulation and feel that this aspect of you hijacks your life, you might consider finding a DBT therapist or a DBT group. I am confident that, with practice, wise mind will become a favorite skill in your quest to become balanced.
DBT was originally developed for Borderline Personality Disorder, but has found to have many more applications in mental health. It is an incredibly useful modality to help individuals struggling with anxiety, depression, self-esteem, eating disorders, addictions and more.
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Kimberly Seelbrede, LCSW is a New York State licensed Psychotherapist, EMDR Practitioner and Couple Therapist with a private practice in New York City, Montana and virtually. As a wellness psychotherapist and holistic consultant, she has receive advanced, extensive training in Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy, Internal Family Systems (IFS), Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Somatic Experiencing (SE), and Nutrition & Integrative Medicine For Mental Health. She is passionate about honoring the exquisite interplay of the mind-body connection. Kimberly Seelbrede specializes in anxiety & mood disorders, trauma and women’s mental health.
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